Please I really need an advice! I just found out that my husband when we were separated last year, he was using my "personal" chequing account information to pay for sex movies and stuff in the Internet, he had gave the place my account information and ss# (he knows all my personal information because we been togheter for 7 years). I know I should of check my statements but because the acc is under my name I felt secure...I was been charged twice p/month, and the worst thing is that back then he wasn't even giving me any money for child support. What should I do? Please I need advices, I just went back with him 2 months ago and now I'm pregnant. We also have 2 other kids.
2007-02-22 07:53:15 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well you are back together with him and so I doubt that you can get him for fraud since you are back together, but I would go to a lawyer and see what you can do about it.
2007-02-22 08:16:48 · answer #1 · answered by Hawaiisweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the anser is a tough one if u still love him but nessasery take him to court go to the police depmt and say u wann file a charge against some one if the kids are his he should but probly wont pay child supportbut before u do any of this ask him nicely if he would plz pay child support however if u go to court and u dont have a good job the court mifgt give the kids to him all arond this is ganne be tough so just try to get thruogh it the best u can o and chang the password 4 the account to
2007-02-22 16:02:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, what do you mean what should you do? Have you confronted him? Is this something over which you want to separate again? Can you look past this and continue on with the relationship? IF you can and want to continue, I would let him know that you are aware of it and you two need to talk it over and you should let him know how it makes you feel. Is this stuff that you allowed when you were first together or stuff you did together? I would add that it sounds like a sleazy thing to do if he thought the two of you were ending it for good. He made had done it just to spite you and for you to see it listed and it hurt you, but maybe now, he has had a change of heart.
2007-02-22 15:59:57 · answer #3 · answered by hartsock1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, are you still with him, since two months ago? If you are, you need to kick yourself in the asss, do you LIKE being used? If you are two months pregnant, you need to do something about that too, because obviously, you are having a hard time supporting the two kids you already have, and are not going to get any help from the birth father. Close the bank account, and close your legs. You could also use birth control.
2007-02-22 16:03:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me see if I understand you correctly.......you and your husband separated, and put your two children through hell. While separated your husband used YOUR personal information for sex movies and internet purchases. In that time he didn't pay ANY child support. AND THEN you got back together with him and are now 2 months pregnant??? Do me a favor and say that out loud so that you can hear for yourself how ridiculous that sounds. As far as you wanting to know what to do next....why? Why do you want to know? Common sense obviously means nothing to you, so why bother asking???
2007-02-22 16:00:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's rough. I wonder if you have confronted him about it yet? I would suggest it. I don't mean angry confrontation, just honest confrontation. Ask him about it. Maybe you can ask for the money back. If he is the kind of person who wouldn't, and takes no responsibility for his past actions, maybe you should question why you're back with him.
I don't know what your legal options would be if he is not willing to pay you back. But I would think there would be something you could do.
It all depends on what kind of person he is and where you want the relationship to go. If you are willing to drop the relationship I would seek legal counsel or at least legal advice. If you want to stay with him, talk to him or, if you don't want to do that, find a way to forgive him.
2007-02-22 15:59:47 · answer #6 · answered by krystalthompson1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say turn him in for fraud, but because you're back together that wouldn't be much fun at home, if you did that!
He needs to pay you back. You need to get teh money from him, or take something of his and sell it until you have re-cooped all that he spent. He'll get the hint then.
Go to your bank and close the account. Open a new one with a new number and make sure he keeps his dirty paws away from the card.
2007-02-22 15:59:26 · answer #7 · answered by Nichole D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being that you are back with him might make your case a little harder to prove to your creditors. But if these accounts are under your name only and he has no authority to use it, then call your bank, creditors and submit a complaint. Let them know that he used your information without your authorization. Why you got pregnant when your marriage is in such a bad state makes me feel bad for you. You need to take better control of your life and stop letting him run it or you will find yourself in a bigger mess than you already are in. Best of luck to you!
2007-02-22 16:08:28 · answer #8 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have access to any of his money? If so add up how much was spent from your account and take it back then change banks. This is fraud on his end, and stupidity on your end. You should always check your statements, they are often available online so you can check daily if you want to. I would inform your bank of this and see if there is anything that can be done. But from now on keep track of your money daily.
2007-02-22 20:40:55 · answer #9 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as though you made a very bad choice in a husband. If he was doing something that dishonest why do you think he would be honest ever again? Love doesn't make a person into something that they aren't. If you love him enough to put up with that kind of garbage, then you will stay with him. If you're smart, dump him for good and mark this experience up to a good lesson learned.
2007-02-22 16:00:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, why would you even get back together with him?? Secondly, I would take him to court for everything that he owes you including the money for sex movies and whatever else.....
I think that if he owed you child support from the beginning then you shouldnt have gone back with him because its saying that he doesnt have to give you anything now because you two are legally together and living in the same household
2007-02-22 15:58:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋