What should I do about my shyness? I'm very shy?

Question

I don't really have any friends. I've never been able to make good friends (only had a couple in highschool, and they all left the state). Now I've been in college 3 years, and there's only half a dozen or so people that I regularly talk to at school. It seems like everybody already has their own friends already, and I always feel left out. I just don't know how or what to do. I'm afraid that if I go to live on my own, that without school I won't have anyone to talk to, and I'll become a hermit. I end up spending 2-3 hours a day on the computer because it's either that or watch TV. I have nothing better to do.

Additional Details

3 hours ago
there's people i chat with online that are my friends i guess, but they live far from me, and i can't exactlly go hang out with them.

2 hours ago
I took a girl out for the first time in december. She really liked me, so I asked her out. Long story short. She stopped calling me after 3 weeks because she got pregnant by another

Answer 1

Try getting a job and meet some people there.. try to act outgoing... if you're shy people think you're snotty and you think their better than them

Answer 2

There's nothing wrong with only having a few friends - some people think you have to have tons of friends in order to be happy. The fact is, the more friends you have, the more of a pain it is to keep up with all of the stuff they want you to do. Then if you get too busy to hang out with one, they will get mad, and think you don't want to hang out with them.

It's better to have a small circle of really good friends. A few online buddies is good too - since they don't take up as much time (and most people I've met online don't care if you don't get on and chat with them regularly - every time I show up, it's as if I never left, they might ask where I've been, but theres no pressure).

Maybe try to find some other people with similar interests - some of my best friends have been musicians. If you don't have any hobbies, maybe look into learning a new skill or something - that will give you something to do rather than sitting around the house alone. At the same time, it is nice to spend time by yourself sometimes - don't always feel like you have to surround yourself with people in order to have a good time.

P.S. The girl that got pregnant - you are fortunate it wasn't yours, but it sounds like she wasn't exactly being monogamous.

Never let other people define who you are, especially women. Work on your self confidence - people can tell when you respect yourself, and they will respect you for it.

Answer 3

I would suggest trying some extra curricular activities. Like Intramural sports, I met a lot of people in college that way. Another way I met people in college was striking up conversations with people in the dining hall. Also, try finding something to do that will carry over into activities you can do after college.

check out the student activities offered by your school.

And I am daringly going to suggest a Christian club, like Intervarsity Christian Fellowship, or Campus Crusade for Christ. Very friendly people in places like that who would come up and talk to you first, which is a good plus if you are shy.

Answer 4

Ok you need to believe in yourself first. When you are,

Smile at everyone you see
bring up conversation as often as possible

with these poeple you talk to, try and build a friendship with them. Organise something so you can meet up. ask them to introduce you to new people. the more poepl you know the better, work on friendships with people, and then maybe geta few dates too. Maybe ask a friend to set you up on a blind date or something.

Maybe you should join a couple of clubs, then you will meet people that have similer interests with you!

There's nothing wrong with shy guys, it can be quite attractive. So get off your computer and stop watching TV and put yourself out there! you have to do things to make them happen! :)

Good luck! :)

Answer 5

You may be an itrovert like me. Do you find it mentally exhausting to be around people for too long? Do you tend to keep your thoughts to yourself while others have no problem thinking outloud? As an introvert, I seem to be watching the actions of others and watch life as if it was a reality TV show, but I don't participate, or limit participation to the select few people who matter to me. Introverts limit their friends to a select few... it took days weeks or months to build up the comfort level to be myself around new friends. You might look up some information about introverts... currently 1 out of 4 people are introverted, the others are extroverted (external thinkers and communicators). Introverts have a different thought process than extroverts and it's worth the time to learn about it online. Once I learned why I seemed different than a lot of people, I felt a lot better about myself.

Answer 6

hm. what i can tell you is try to do more stuff ie. go to the mall go clubbing things like that. that's where you meet every1

but the best part of it is that they don't know that you are shy so you can just go up to any1 and just b like hey, and start a convo.

i had the same problem but then i went to a place where no1 knew me .. so no1 knew who i was or anything about me so no1 could b like or datz dat girl wif no friends or w/e so it'z like startin fresh in a way ..

hope dat helped :D

Answer 7

You have to stop to being shy because if you don't you will regret when you finish school that you missed out on the fun that you are suppose to have now.

Answer 8

be more confident in urself confidence is a key girls dont like un confident guys