Our relationship is rocky but I love him so much and do not think he wants to work it out with me.
2007-02-22 07:49:13 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Most marriages are rocky, especially in the first year. I think people get a little "shell shocked" when they realize that they have chosen a partner they are expected to stay with for the rest of their life.
My marriage was kind of rocky the first year, we fought all the time, but now most of the wrinkles have been smoothed out (we're on a year and a half now) and we have settled into a routine that doesn't involve fighting and does involving appreciating each other.
I hope everything works out for you guys... and here's where i give the same answer everyone else is going to give, try marriage counseling.
2007-02-22 07:54:45 · answer #1 · answered by Some Lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have any children then there is no reason what so ever to live in misery. Divorce does not have to end in a heated battle but it can end in a trues. If you both talk about it and agree that it is the best thing to do then you have agreed on something. A relationship can still be salvaged, do not wait until frustration and anger comes into the marriage because you will be asking for trouble. If you have children and you both agree to be part of each others lives and the kids then do it with a sound mutual agreement. There are many people in this world who have done this and are still very close. Why not you? Ask him if you were to get a divorce will it be for the right reasons. If it is for the right reasons then its time to start a new life and learn from this experience.
2007-02-22 16:21:44 · answer #2 · answered by SuperDave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about it with him, don't just assume that he doesn't wanna work it out cause chances are he does. You can't expect to bolt or call it quits everytime u encounter obstacles in ur marriage cause u would always be lonely and unhappy. Talk it out and come to an amicable agreement. You could suggest counselling as a possible option but usually COMMUNICATION helps so you should try it sometime b4 u make a decision u'll stand to regret.
2007-02-22 15:56:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand how you can both "love him so much" and NOT want to be married to him. So, take the initiative. Change in marriage starts with you. Sure, talk to him nicely but assertively about specific things you would like him to do differently. But start on yourself. Make your marriage better by making yourself a better person.
2007-02-22 15:55:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Communicate. Marriage is often hard work, it's not just all romance and fun and happy times.
When you get married, you are agreeing to stay together and work things out IF AT ALL POSSIBLE. This means you talk, talk, talk, and talk some more. Tell him what you want and expect, and get him to tell you want he wants and expects, then you work towards compromise. You get counselling if you need help. You don't just bail when things aren't so great.
WHY DO PEOPLE GET MARRIED WHEN THEY HAVE NO CLUE WHAT IT MEANS?
2007-02-22 16:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by wijit13 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
his love for u would show by his actions towards u. if he really loved u he would go to any length to save your marriage. if he is not willing than u can't do it alone. just because we love them, it doesn't guarantee that the love will be returned. sometimes people just don't want to invest the time and work involved in saving a marriage, if they refuse u will have to make a decision about it. takes two to work it out.
2007-02-22 19:11:59 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way about my husband. Then he cheated. So I left and we are now divorced. It was hard to do but it was certainly for the best. My life is a lot better with out him.
2007-02-22 16:01:01 · answer #7 · answered by classylady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same, we have been together so long and I dont want to start over but I dont really want to be married to him any longer. I know how you are feeling and wish you the best go with your instincts
2007-02-22 15:52:53 · answer #8 · answered by ChanelGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it. tell what you are thinking.
He is your husband if you cant talk to him then maybe you shouldnt be married to him.
When you get married you are in it for the long haul. Not to bail out when things get a little tough.
Communication is the key. so just talk to him
good luck, hope everything works out for you
2007-02-22 15:53:50 · answer #9 · answered by sgreenslade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'M NOT MARRIED YET BUT I FEEL LIKE THAT ALOT OF THE TIME WITH MY B/F OF 3 YRS ITS NORMAL IS PART OF A RELATIONSHIP, WHAT KIND OF MARRIAGE BE WITH OUT THE ROCK TIMES.
2007-02-22 15:54:10 · answer #10 · answered by vanessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋