2007-02-22 07:44:49 · 48 answers · asked by Demi 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Of course i mean go to the doctor,not perform it yourself...
2007-02-22 07:54:02 · update #1
Hi Demi,
Me and the wife talked about this in depth many years ago and we came to the conclusion that we would have a termination (Abortion can be such a dramatic word) Going through life as a severely disabled individual would take an awful lot of commitment and you would undoubtedly miss out on a whole lot as a carer.
If you had other children they would always be put second in the care stakes so it could make them feel left out and resentful. Why would anyone seriously put themselves through that when there is no real need to? When they are young they are like most other babies, needing pretty much constant attention and as a mum you will be able to handle this. The heartbreaker will be when they grow up and cannot lead a normal life. You will miss out on so much and your life will not ever be your own.
It may sound cruel to some but there is a vey good chance if you tried again your next baby might be healthy and normal. Surely deep down, that is what every parent wants. What's wrong with being a little selfish, why do you have to be the martyr?
Being an athiest I do not buy all this 'babys are a gift from God' business, a baby is what occurs naturally through procreation and is down to the mother and father not 'God' or someone elses view. Terminations are not a great evil, if a foetus is without doubt going to be born severely disabled then it should not be frowned upon by others when the prospective parents decide on termination. Besides which, in reality, what the heck has it got to do with anyone else? It is how you feel and it is your decision. It will affect your life so only you can answer this question.
If it had a chance of a mild form of disablement then my answer would be to have the baby and give it all the love you can. As you referred to severely disabled I would terminate every time.
Make your choice and do not feel guilty about it. If you are in this position I hope which ever choice you make turns out the right one for you and I wish you every happiness for the future
Take care,
Charlie
2007-02-23 06:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by my_pants_are_inside_out 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋
As the mum of a 12 week old baby boy who I love to bits I'd probably say no.
I'm not anti abortion and would never condemn anyone who did but I love my baby so much I'm not sure that I could have an abortion even if a baby was to be disabled.
When my little lad smiles at me I feel such love and happiness, I'm sure I'd feel the same for any child I had, disabled or not.
Of course, if I were in that situation, I'm not sure how I'd feel.
There are all sorts of things to take into account - how are you going to care for a severely disabled child, the financial costs, the worry about what happens to the child when you're gone, the impact on your other children . . . I'd think about it all and get loads of advice and counselling before making any sort of decision.
But to be honest I think I probably wouldn't have an abortion.
2007-02-22 10:34:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would. (depending on the severity of the disability of course)
If i didnt think that a child had a decent chance of having a normal healthy lifestyle and would need constant medication and would suffer from being born i would consider abortion.
I think there are too many ppl afraid to be in control of there bodies and to make responsible decisions about what they chose to do.
Women fought for the right to be able to make these decisions about there bodies some even died.
I think if an unborn child will suffer from being born it would be selfish to continue with a pregnancy.
I know ppl will say that it is murder and that i would be killing a life but how is it in the interest of a baby to keep it in living hell for the rest of its life.
People will probably be quick to judge me but im a mother and i can see things objectively when i look at my son and consider could i put him through it - the answer would always be no - it would be cruel.
Dont judge me. This is something i had to think hard about during my pregnancy and was not a decision i came to easily.
2007-02-22 08:06:08 · answer #3 · answered by carlyjayne 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's a tricky one but if I'm honest I would have to think about how humane it would be to have a severely disabled child.
I would have an abortion if it mean the child suffering.
Some people are so against abortion they will have a child no matter what but at the end of the day you have to think of the child as well, like I said is it humane to have a child that is constantly in pain with nothing you can do about it.
2007-02-22 10:01:52 · answer #4 · answered by Bugs 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Damn that's a messed up thought. I certainly don't believe in abortion but I would hate for a child to have to live with some kind of disability. I could never make that decision until I had to but I think I would choose life no matter what.
2016-05-23 23:41:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if I felt that the child would not live a normal life and be going in and out of surgeries and stuff, I may. That would be under the circumstances that I got several doctors' opinions. If I was over 6 months along or something though, I truly do not know if I could though. I guess if it came down to it, I would make the most educated decision I could
2007-02-22 07:57:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I got three healthy children that's hard work by it's self but if one was disabled would it be fair on the other children as your time and energy,
so Yes i would abort the blob, not a baby yet. And even if i didn't have kids it would be a full time job .
In time it would be stressfull
and harder as the child gets bigger
your back and the stress on your body for caring for that child and your relationship with the dad would probably fall apart too,(on your own) but that's me, up too you really your question your life and body
2007-02-22 22:24:59 · answer #7 · answered by Busgirl2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would. I paid £50 both times I was pregnant for extra blood tests to diagnose downs syndrome. I work in this field and did not want to have a family with a disabled child. Having said that now if my children were made disabled through accident or illness I would do 100% for them.
2007-02-22 21:03:08 · answer #8 · answered by babyshambles 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If my child had no quality of life and they would have a short life full of suffering and pain then I would consider having an abortion - but I cant say definetly what I would do until I was in that position.
This is probably one of the hardest decisions a person would have to make and if you are asking due to having to make this decision then my heart goes out to you or to whoever is involved and whatever decision is made will be the right one for whatever reasons (dont let the pro lifers guilt you into anything)
2007-02-22 07:55:04 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Claire - Hates Bigotry 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I'd want my child to have a life where they can't do anything. my brother works in a home for children with severe disabilities and some of them won't even get to be 5 years old. they can't speak, eat, walk or do anything by themselves. It's like having a newborn baby all your life. and who is going to look after the child when the parent is gone?
It's hard getting used to being a parent when you're child healthy.
I know i couldn't cope with that.
2007-02-22 11:14:22 · answer #10 · answered by carmen1509s 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋