Professional lsb advices needed?

Question

theres this girl from another city with whom I've been talking on msn and I'll be meeting next month. Shes a lsb and I consider myself a bi which is actually an asexual..I think I experience problems of getting close to ppl (regardless from gender). Anyway, no matter how hard it will be 4 me, I'll try to be with her. I'm not sure about how to stay protected. Ppl offered latex or saran wrap for oral sex, and latex gloves for the insertion. Probably as a lsb with a past she already knows these but what if not? How should I ask her to use one? What if she does not get protected, how on earth will we be able to find these tools right in the middle of sth..?? I'm so pissed..and I'm not even sure I can do this...how do u ppl get so easily close to smo u've just met..? help!

Answer 1

Well first step for you is to go to a local women's heath clinic and pick up some material on safe sex. if you live in a large LGBT city they will have plenty of resources for you.
Second step is, honestly ask yourself "if I can become sexually intimate with someone, shouldn't I be able to talk about safe sex practices?" If the answer to this is "NO" then you shouldn't have sex with them (regardless of their sex or orientation). Safe sex now is a matter of life or death, as well as nasty visits to the doctor. Don't take talking about this lightly. It is a good thing to ask how many partners they have been with, and how many you have been with. When was the last time they were tested, tell them when the last time that you were tested. If she is the right person and cares for you, she should be thankful that you have a concern.
Third check out the sites below.

Sorry if I sound like a mom on this, but I have been in the community for many years and attended more funerals than I would have liked to attend and had more late night crying calls because something unexpected showed up at the doctors office.

Good luck, and be safe