how can violence by parents during childhood affect a child's psyche in adulthood?

Question

if the child is subjected to regular beatings, what behavioural changes will he exihibit when he grows into an adult.

Answer 1

The obvious long-term reactions to abuse are either rejection or acceptance.

Some people who are abused know it's wrong, even when they don't understand it. They oppose and fight it to the best of their ability and as long as they can. These people reject outright the validity of abuse, and - if anything - overcompensate in the other way. They try to be loving and never exhibit those kinds of behaviours, perhaps even when they are called for.

We see this kind of thing all the time. Children of alcoholics are sometimes the purest of teetotalers. Some runaways are likewise just fighting abuse in the only way they can - by physically making themselves absent. Some of these defenses become so ingrained that they become hard to abandon... some runaways simply never stop running from one thing or another.

Another, more insidious reaction can occur that causes the victim to accept the validity of the behaviour. From a certain psychological perspective, the person performing the abuse is the 'winner' - they have power and control and are not suffering as their victims do. This can cause some victims of abuse to act out the very abuse to which they were subject when they can. This is not because they LIKE the behaviour, but they perceive it as a way to establish control of situations. And in many cases of ongoing psychological abuse, the victim's self-image becomes so low that they have a frequent need to establish some kind of control.

Thus we see abusers who hated their abuse but become abusers themselves. I am reminded of a rapist who was forced as a youth by his older sister to perform oral sex on her, and so forced other girls to do the same to him later. These kinds of behaviours often have very little to do with actual gratification.

Answer 2

-they could push people away
-become fearful of intimacy or close relationships
-become an abuser themself, possibly a rapist or sadist
-could even turn into a submissive role, & allow future bosses and others to spit on them and kick them around all the while thinking they deserve it
-feel unworthy of help & won't seek it
-but in turn may still want to help others, whether they're abuse victims or not
-could become shy or introverted
-or aggressive
-get into self-destructive behavior, maybe an eating disorder, drug addiction etc
-get depressed & possibly commit suicide
-treat their own children that way
-or after they do all the above they may or may not see "the light" have an emotional epiphany see how far their memories have lead them down the road of destruction and learn that they do deserve help and then can get counseling so they can stop the cycle and heal their past
-or if they're lucky enough they'll find a special someone like Peter Pan to guide them to a better life
-or they'll be 29, HIV positive, addicted to snowballing heroine, homeless, running from Don Carnage the gang banger that wants a piece of their sweet a.ss to prostitute and eventually die of an OD

Answer 3

countless triggers would desire to reason this - puberty (bringing annoying thoughts of sexual arousal, prompting guilt or shame, anger, worry, etc), or relationships - toddlers needless to say do no longer tend to have deep romatic relationships. there is likewise the a number of social placing, that is much less complicated to dissassociate if there are few reminders yet adults, espcially 18-25 year olds, tend to have very sexualised socialisation (i.e. golf equipment, social interplay kind, flirting, etc) and the lifestyle is the comparable (in terms of song and movies that this age team watches greater desirable than toddlers) all of that would stir memories. they also have a turning out to be understanding of how incorrect the molestation replaced into - toddlers won't have an entire understanding of how incorrect and how unusual it is - and this would reason problems.

Answer 4

He would probably grow up to beat his own kids, or it could be worse. As a child he wouldn't feel loved. He would think no one loves him, and he would grow up and not show his kids/acquaintances any love. He would probably grow up to be a murderer or something. On the other hand, he could grow up and be more loving and caring and treating his family/friends better than he was treated because he knows how it feels.

Answer 5

This can go two ways.

1st: the child may become a bully and abuser.

2nd: the child may withdrawl and continue to be a victim.