My husband and I have had our problems- severe ones. Anyway we are working thing out and have been for 2 months. It has been a great 2 months- he has really changed and I have really changed. We are finally becoming a solid couple. We have been married for 6 years and this is the first time I have been happy- I mean really happy with him.
Today my mom went to see one of my best childhood friends. They talked for a long time. I guess the girl is miserable in her marriage. Well- my problem is that my mother told me that she told her that I was miserable too and that if we get divorced we could move in together and share the bills (as single mothers). Just yesterday my mother told me, out o he blue, that "what your husband doesn't understand is that I really want your marriage to work out." Sure doesn't sound like it to me. She's always had her own agenda in our marriage. She thinks I should have married someone else.
Anyway- she knows that we are happy right now. Should I confront her?
2007-02-22 07:13:56 · 8 answers · asked by momof2 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm really glad that you and your husband are working things out, and that you two are happy together. That's wonderful. :)
And I can see how you would be upset about what your Mom said in regards to your relationship issues.. but I can't help wondering.. Did you confide in her when things were not-so-good?? If that's the case, I have to say.. while it's not right of her to tell someone else that you're "miserable" in your marriage.. You kinda brought that one on, when you involved her to begin with (I say that ONLY if that is the case).
The best advice I can give you, is to just let it go, and spend your time and energy focusing on your marriage, instead of worrying about what other people are saying.. If you two are happy, and things are going good between you and your husband.. that's what really matters.
Best of luck!
2007-02-22 08:03:09 · answer #1 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell mom that there is no way that you and your husband are seperating or even get a divorce and tell her to stop talking about your personal life with other people and after you do this don't tell your mom about any problems that you and your husband incur because its none of her business.You and your husband can work it out between you 2
2007-02-22 15:19:42 · answer #2 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like mom has 2 faces. I would be careful what I let her know about my personal life right now. She may be telling you one thing and feeling a different way. If you keep things to yourself you shouldn't have any probelms. But if anyone else tells you she says something then you need to tell her to stay out of it and keep her mouth closed.
2007-02-22 15:35:40 · answer #3 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell yeah!!! tell her that is your life and that is none of her business how your life is. it's your fault too for letting her know how things were in YOUR marriage. mothers are mothers and will always see us as their babies so do yourself a favor, stand up for yourself and tell her that from now on she can't say ANYTHING about your marriage because that only concerns to you and your husband!
2007-02-22 15:57:42 · answer #4 · answered by chikis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her how many divorces and broken relationships she has heard of. Then tell her the obvious that it is normal to have marital problems and like everyone else you will have your problems and deal with it.
2007-02-22 15:19:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you need to let her know that you have to live your own life because she can't live it for you if you let her know how you feel about this then most likely she will try to back off a little because she wouldn't want to seem like a bad mother
2007-02-22 15:18:49 · answer #6 · answered by superstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, why cause more drama..just let her be.....be glad that it's probably eating her up inside because you and your husband are doing so good...
2007-02-22 15:18:48 · answer #7 · answered by lata 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats so good, i hope it will stay that way forever
2007-02-22 15:20:19 · answer #8 · answered by Rushae M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋