What do you consider to be real love? Can you be in love with someone who you don't feel that excitement over and all of that? Or is there more to it than just feelings? What do you think? Should you marry someone who you love and respect and treats you well but you don't feel those feelings along with it?
Sorry...this turned into like a 4 part question. Lol.
Please answer as many as possible. Thanks.
2007-02-22 07:09:14 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I feel that you can be in love with someone that you don't feel that excitement over, especially if you all have been together for a while.
Being Married and in Love is Not just an emotion it is a commitment that you make.
If he treat you well, loves you, and ultimately make you happy - I say go for it. There is not a perfect man out here, and you will be only mad, once you let him go and another woman gets a good man, just because you didn't get that excitement that fairy tales says that you should have before marrying someone.
Hope this helps...
2007-02-22 07:21:14 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Brown Eyez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had it to do over I would put way more stock in the friendship aspect than the mushy feeling aspect.
Love is an action not a feeling
If you are great friends with them you will feel the excitement. IMO
I think if you are totally honest with yourself you will realize there are things you don't respect about the person.
2007-02-22 07:19:45 · answer #2 · answered by archangel72901 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that to be in love with someone you must trully feel something for them it may not be that excited feeling you get when you guys first start out. It turns into more like if you love him you will want him to always be happy you can just look at him and smile and feel happy at where you are. Someone you know you can trust and can tell anything about and when your down you feel safe and comfortable to be with him. Basically he's like your best friend and you'll know if you love him when the time comes. Its up to you to decide what you feel for him. If you arent ready you shouldn't marry just get time to think things through.
2007-02-22 07:17:33 · answer #3 · answered by Jess_Eka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well love in it's most basic sense is something you do..
not something you say...
so if you feel the urge to DO our of selflessness for this other person, if you feel to DO for this person things that you know will make them feel good or happy, if you feel the need to DO things to show that they can trust you, it MAY be love...
and not everyone responds the same to love...
I, for instance, write songs and poetry to girl that I like...
others may either be ashamed or not in touch with their feelings or something and consider that lame...
its about how you feel..
and I think before you start thinking about marriage you should take the time to figure out EXACTLY what you are feeling.
I mean, I'm a grown man.. and I still get butterflies...
so I dunno..
But its never a bad time for an INTROSPECTIVE...
good luck!
2007-02-22 07:16:15 · answer #4 · answered by Supreme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the question you have to answer to figure it out. Do you see your self being happy with him and is your love unconditional for him? If you answer yes to this then stay with him if you say no then you have to way the positives against his negatives. Sorry I wish it was a clear cut case but it never is.
2007-02-22 07:22:47 · answer #5 · answered by Blake B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I even have been a widow an prolonged, long term...and characteristic been fortunate adequate to proceed to have gents % to squire me around. although our kin are by no potential ones with "reward", there continues to be adequate of that youthful woman left interior me that i come across the type and nice gestures that they make to thrill me, that I do sense "butterflies" that even although i'm previous, and characteristic hardship controlling being a bossy-boots....that quite nice, eye-catching gents nevertheless % to spend time in my enterprise. That i understand many could have no issues by any potential to locate a woman our age who could be keen to supply "reward", makes their attentions to me look much extra particular to me. i myself sense venerated to have their attentions, by using fact i understand that they are doing it by using fact they like ME.....and not by using fact they are getting "reward".
2016-12-17 16:24:08 · answer #6 · answered by dricketts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel real love comes with the butterflies. the everpresent feeling that keeps you thinking about that object of your desire.
one should not marry if the fire is not there because your heart is not truly into it. when you are IN love, you know it.
2007-02-23 12:15:13 · answer #7 · answered by KT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good ?.i thought long and hard about that..when i was with my ex..gurl..if that man as so much put his pinky on me kiss me or touch me..i would feel like my knees would buckle from underneath me..i literally felt like i was under a spell..and i guess that i and others would call that love (not sure)..but now that i am with my current guy when we kiss i dont feel like that or when he touches me i dont feel like that..but i know that i love and care for and about him..so i am in love even though i dont feel weak inthe knees with my guy...
kudoos for asking to me what is a great ?..
2007-02-22 07:19:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you don't feel that spark dosn't mean that you are not in love or you shouldn't marry them.People get diffrent feelings with diffrent people that they are dating.
2007-02-22 07:17:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you want and what you define love as. If it is ok with you. It is ok.
2007-02-22 07:15:49 · answer #10 · answered by honeyluv_2010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋