i need advice.
2007-02-22 06:56:49 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In my life, time helps heal all. When I have been hurt by someone it is easier to get over them when I realize they weren't worth it because of the way they treated me. They made it hard to continue to love them. My advice is don't brood over this and find another activity or a new person so you won't think of this person who hurt you.
2007-02-22 07:05:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what I did.
1. See a therapist to get feelings off my chest, hash out any issues.
2. Find support in friends to get distracted
3. Allow myself to grieve (Be alone to accept things)
4. Space from that person to get out of that cycle
5. Exercise to release seratonin
6. Rediscover myself - This was the best b/c I forgot all the things I enjoyed doing while in a relationship
7. Find new things to do. Things I always wanted to do, but never had the time
8. Realize that I don't have to answer to anyone, and I can do whatever it is I wanted to do.
9. Rest. You need a break from all this emotional stress.
It will be hard, but you need time and space away to truly "process" the events that have occurred. Just 2 days ago I started to feel a little better. It's a strange feeling, but I want to keep it going and avoid anything that might "trigger" sad feelings.
2007-02-22 07:25:42 · answer #2 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you need to think about the reasons WHY you love this person who disappointed you. Are you sure it's love? And, depending on the depth in which he/she hurt you, its hard to say.
Did he/she bend over backwards and attempt to make things right with you? And, make up for the damage he/she caused? Did he/she put your feelings first, when he realized how much he hurt you? Did he go to great lengths to apologize and made sure that you knew how deeply sorry he/she was? I am sorry, but, you have more strength than you realize, and unless he/she has made some grand effort to make it up with you, I would say, work hard, keep busy and things will fade. I promise you.
2007-02-22 07:11:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say, "Time heals all wounds." This is true. It will take time to ease away from the hurt but in the meantime life still goes on. Don't get stuck in this funk or put your life on hold. End your lonliness by reaching out to the homeless or care for the needy. Pursue your passions and be the bes you can be. Be happy to be rid yourself of the clutter of your life. Take care of yourself, light up your own life. Drive yourself to your own destination, know that no one completes you but - YOU, live your dreams and never lose faith.
2007-02-22 07:14:56 · answer #4 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about all the problems with relationships. they may be right for some people, but not for all. if you truly love someone you can't just stop loving them, because even though they hurt you, they might not have meant to, and there may be a lot of things that you really like about the person.
move on, focus on yourself, do things you like, pamper yourself, and try to find a way to not depend on others for your happiness.
2007-02-22 07:09:43 · answer #5 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heal all wounds. Keep yourself busy doing things that interest you. Don't talk back with him, until you are able to handle it. It will be very hard at first, but as time goes on the pain will begin subside more and more.
2007-02-22 07:08:31 · answer #6 · answered by Ms Brown Eyez 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Change the type of love you have for the person into a "forgiving love" and you'll feel better. Forgive them and wish them the best in your heart and mind, and once you feel this self-respect and dignity you can move on.
2007-02-22 07:30:35 · answer #7 · answered by healing wings 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has been my experience that time is the only thing that can heal this kind of hurt. Look to the future and things won't seem so bad!
2007-02-22 07:09:44 · answer #8 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it takes time i have been there you just need to get out and meet new people if you don't you will step in to a world where you cant get out the more time you spend trying to find a way to get them back the more time you are wasting. i dated this guy for over 2 years to find out that he was living 2 life's i was head over hills in love with him i thought i would spend the rest of my life with him until the day i found out about his other life. i was hurt but in my eyes he hung the moon and stars but i broke up with him anyways i knew that he could hide this other life for that long what made me think he would give it up. i spent the next 2 years still in love with him daydream about how it was and what it could have been i steped in to that world and could get out i didn't want to be around anyone i shut my self off to the world. but one day i seen that he wasn't coming back. so i moved on and found the real love of my life. since then i have talked to him and at one point i almost walked out on what i have now to go back to him. i cried because i was being pulled in to different ways but i got to thinking and i was happy now. and you will be happy once again you just have to give yourself some time but don't be like me a waste 2 years of your life getting over someone when that right person is out there waiting to meet you
2007-02-22 07:10:53 · answer #9 · answered by whiteangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need counseling....it will get better if you stop looking for heartache......
go out and look for another guy ...even a transitional guy...some one said that the best way to over one guy is to get under a new one...I don't know if that's true for you but try counseling first
good luck
2007-02-22 07:02:35 · answer #10 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋