when i get the urge to crossdress i get really excited and when doing it i love it but when i have finished...

Question

... i feel dirty and sometimes disgusting, is this normal for a crossdresser to feel like this? Serious answers only please

Answer 1

It is something that society programs in us. Society tries to make us feel bad if we dont fit their standard of normal. Brush it off as it will only ruin your joys.

Answer 2

Your feelings are perfectly normal.

Many people experiment with crossdressing and for the majority, that is the end of it. Others take the experience further where, again there is a split. Some crossdressers get a sexual "buzz" from dressing, others feel emotionally comfortable when dressed.

The only advice that I can offer is that you are not alone in feeling the way you do and you are neither the first or last.

Read more about the subject and do not feel under any pressure to stop. You will know instinctively how far down the crossdressing road you want to go.

Life is too short so be yourself. It's easy to say but I did just that and I'm now open and very happy with my crossdressing.

If other people don't like it or can't accept it, tough.

Answer 3

Sounds like you are in the very ealy stages of realizing and admitting and accepting yourself for who you are,, nothing to feel ashamed or dirty for,, your only human also,, along time ago I would feel the same way,, then when the internet came around and I realized I wasnt the ONLY Guy in the world that felt like I did,, It was such a Big relief, as long as your not hurting anyone and your an adult,, do what ever feels best to you,, but be careful going out in public with things under your guy clothes,, something show up better than others,

Answer 4

It sounds like plain old fashioned guilt. You can do things to lessen these feelings and help yourself adjust. The guilt is triggered when you end the crossdressing, try changing your routine to include a gender nuetral activity before returning to your normal male role. A shower or a soak in the tub might help to ease your transition and the guilt.

Answer 5

This is very normal, you probably still have some denial issues, I am not saying this for sure, but once you get past that, and accept that this is a wonderful part of yourself, you will get over that. I used to feel the same way sometimes, I no longer do.

Answer 6

It's normal to feel this way when you believe the crap that other people have told you about it being dirty.
You are beautiful. Feel it. Dress it. Then flaunt it! Look at yourself all dolled up and tell yourself that you are clean and good. Over time, you can condition yourself to forget those lies that hold you back and make you feel less of a person.
Love yourself and how you want to look!

Answer 7

It's normal to feel that guilt or shame after you've done anything that society deems "abnormal". It sounds like you need to do a little soul searching and decide how you really feel about all of this and what it means to you. You have to learn to accept yourself as you are or change the things about you that you aren't proud of and then move on with your life. There are plenty of very normal, productive members of society in the same position as you. You just have to decide if you want to continue beating yourself for this behavior for the rest of your life, if you want to change the behavior altogether, or if you just want to accept this as a natural part of who you are.

Good luck!

Answer 8

It is perfectly normal to crossdress. There is no reason to feel dirty at all, unless you've been playing in the mud.

Answer 9

Oh dear.

I went through at least fifteen years of that... and it's not good.

I loved getting ready, getting an outfit together ( it could take days of secrecy to get clothes and makeup and privacy), getting dressed, being dressed.... Then when the time came to get into Man-mode again, I'd be feeling depressed, disgusted, ashamed of myself, embarrased, and pretty much down in the mouth, these feelings amplified tenfold if I had managed to get any sexual gratification while dressed. I have torn my femminine clothes off and destroyed them and all the others I had (purging as it's known) so many times... and each time, regretted it and gone back for more.

Why the feelings ? For me I think it's shame... I had less than understanding parents, and as a child and teen I got caught out many many times with lingerie hidden in my room, or indeed wearing girls clothes, I got caught with Tranny porn when I was 16, each time I was shamed, ridiculed, humiliated and then phisicaly punished by my parents, and it left me feeling felt fretty damn small, afraid and lonely.

Eventually I have come to terms with it all... It's taken me 33 odd years and I am finally at a place where I accept who I am and what I like to wear and how I behave... I dealt with my parents a few years ago, reading them the riot act after yet another outburst (unrelated to my problems) from one of my parents directed this time at a sibling of mine, the outbusrt turned towards violence and I let my parent have it.... Fifteen full minutes of yelling and accusing and pointing out what they had acchieved with thier stupidity, short sightedness, violence and bad parenting.

Long and short is, for me, it was my parents ( mainly my mother ) who instilled in me the feelings of guilt and shame. As for how normal it is to feel dirty or shamefull.... For me, for a long time, yes... It was normal.. Theese days I tend to fall asleep afterwards adn feel pretty relaxed and happy.

Answer 10

You really need to get to grips with what and why you are doing what you do.
You have courage to seek advice as you know there is something not quite right with your feelings around crossdressing.

Answer 11

Dont worry a few years ago i went through the same kind of thing but now im comfortable with it all. Its like a phase when you think you shouldnt be doing it because society frowns upon it it makes it feel wrong. Gd luck my friend it will pass.