the 1st move when we got in bed and then he pushed me away and said don't touch me! i am tired! go to sleep! then i said i thought we were going to have a romantic evening tonight? then he said you bug me go over there and go to sleep ~ i changed my mind! i am tired! i was hurt. I felt rejected and unnattractive and embarrassed. i said why do u act like this(moody) i said i thought we were gonna get intimate....i asked don't you love me anymore and he said i don't know anymore...then this morning when i was making coffee he was gonna go to work and before he left he said bye and kissed me and said he loved me...i was confused cuz last night he said he did not know~ what would you do??
2007-02-22 06:47:05 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, well, well. Welcome to the world men deal with every single day. Wanting sex, asking for it, planning it, setting it up, expecting it -- only to be turned away simply because someone else got tired and changed their mind.
Annoying as HELL, isn't it? Hurts like a sonofabitch, too. Multiply that by 365 and you have a typical man-year.
Might be the tired him talking but he shouldn't say the things he did - there's something lurking beneath his surface. Ask more questions and listen to the answers.
Ask things like: "When you said get over there the other night when we were going to make love, it was really rude and coarse and hurtful. Why did you say it that way?"
"When you said you weren't sure if you loved me any more, it was like dropping a piano on me. Did you really mean that? If you didn't mean it, why in the HELL did you say it?"
Get to the reason for his immature, juvenile way of talking to you. He is putting you down for a reason. Ask him what it is.
What's that line from 'Ghost"?
"Molly - you in danger, girl."
2007-02-22 07:21:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Umm... here's a strech, but stay with me... he said he was tired... so.... maybe he was tired? I know I'm reaching here, I'm sorry to strech logic so far, but husbands have been known (on occassion, I'm not talking about a monthly thing here) to get tired. It's especially common after putting forth a lot of effort or being awake for extended periods. Symptoms of being tired include moodiness (which you commented on) and confusion (which you also commented on.) Tiredness has a simple cure, however, so you're in luck! If you stop talking to the person, they usually fall asleep, and after about six to eight hours, they wake up, and they're not tired! After that, the confusion and moodiness usually dissapate. Does this sound like your situation? It seems to match your description. The strange thing about being tired is, unlike a lot of other conditions, it has a distinctive feel, and we've all been tired often enough to recognize it. So if you ask him if he was tired, he'll probably know. You might try that.
2007-02-22 07:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has their ups and downs. Since I have been married there have been hurt feelings a few times because I was generally tired or didn't feel good when we had a special night planned. In the long run if he isn't cheating, calling you names, treating you bad, etc just remember everyone has and is entitled to their "bad days" life goes on. In the morning it will all be ok.
2007-02-22 06:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by ♡LiL♥Kitten♡ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're too pushy - back off! All of us need a little privacy. How did you "make plans" for romance - was it by bugging the cr*p out of him for three days straight until he said yes? Perhaps he was extra tired on that particular day, but you didn't get the cues, and kept bugging and bugging him? Be more flexible.
2007-02-22 07:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not telling the whole story. You said or did something to make him angry or upset and you are purposely leaving that out. It has happened to me, so I know. The woman makes a remark that reminds the guy of his ex or his mother or is somehow uncomplimentary ("You never look at me" or "Your hair smells awful" or something like that). The one woman I know who used to do this to men did it because, according to her, when she made the first move, romantically, the man had to "pay" in some way.
2007-02-22 07:00:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anpadh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you don't need that, and you need to tell him that. You don't deserve to be pushed and pulled back and forth, no one does. You should start treating him like that for a change, see how he likes it. He'll be either marching to a different beat, or he'll decide he doesnt want to be in a relationship anymore, either way, you'll win. Because if he wants to leave, then let him, there WILL be someone out there that will appreciate you.
2007-02-22 06:51:30 · answer #6 · answered by slickpam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women turn down sex all the time and nobody is worried but when a man does women think that he doesn't love her anymore. Talk to him and find out what's wrong maybe he ha a rough day and was exausted you'll never know unless you ask.
2007-02-22 06:51:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is going through a depression or is hiding something from you.
Maybe he has some physical condition he is hiding that he might have got from someone else and is too embarassed to admit it.
Best you look into couple counseling or lack there of plan to move in with your life.
2007-02-22 06:50:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your husband is a petulant 2 year old, this sounds like trouble. Has he been to the doctor for a complete check up to see if there is something causing his extreme mood swings? Perhaps Marriage Counseling will help you both. Suggest it.
2007-02-22 06:50:27 · answer #9 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of husband is he telling you he doesn't know if he loves you anymore? Then acting as if nothing happened this morning?
You need to confront this head on. Y'all need a serious heart to heart and maybe some counseling.
Good luck sweetie.
2007-02-22 07:03:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋