So it looks like I found the loophole in marriage. What do you think?

Question

I've asked a variety of questions on this and the responses seem to be that it is OK to cheat as long as nobody finds out and you keep your mouth shut for years. Then this can all be left in the "PAST".

I'm going ot have to try this one out repeatedly until I live out all my wildest fantasies. Then not tell anybody for 5 years.

Answer 1

Don't try that one on anyone with a lick of sense.
Like so many others you only listen to what you want to hear, and so you have come up with the OK to cheat if she doesn't find out defense. Its not OK the very word cheat tells you that you are giving someone else what you should be saving and giving only to her. You are cheating her out of her trust, her rightful intimate life with an honest man, and introducing the possiblity of sexual disease to your marriage bed.
Was that in your fantasy too?

Answer 2

Okay, go ahead with your little plan but think about one thing while you are doing it; What would you think if your partner did it? Just sit back and imagine that for a while and hopefully it will bring you to your senses.

Also realize that if you do this, you are introducing a variety of potential diseases to your spouse and then they may end up ultimately paying for your actions. The things you do often do not affect you alone...

Answer 3

So how is that being moral and being honest? Because even if you don't say anything, people can find out. I think you seriously need to take marriage seriously. I took my vows seriously especially the forsaking ALL others, meaning I won't cheat on my wife. I love my wife so much not to put her through that pain. If you cheat on your spouse, you don't love them, because if you did and put them and their feelings and needs before your own, you would never have ANY reason to cheat.

Grow up and learn some respect.

Answer 4

what souless ppl have you've been getting answers from?!!!!!

first of all, you dont deserve to be in a marriage if u are looking for a loophole

secondly, cheating is NEVER ok, when it comes to anything. Appearently you were drugs when you took your vows. Cuz marriage is something that should be taken lightly. You did under God too.....if you wanna hook up that bad, save the poor man anymore suffering and divorce him, then just date and be single. Don't be a bop

Answer 5

the problem is, once the person that has been cheated on finds out, its as if it JUST HAPPENED. The pain isn't any less because it happened 5 or 10 years ago.

By the way, me and my man live out our wildest fantasies together, whats your problem?!

Answer 6

You only get to use the "past" card if it was before you began dating your current spouse. Anything from dating forward is still considered current. Even if it is 5 mins to 50+ years.

Answer 7

It is never ok to cheat! and if you think so little of your spouse tho do such a horrible thing then you should be kicked to the curb and cold and lonly for the rest of your life!

Answer 8

Why didn't you live out all your wildest fantasies "BEFORE" you got married?
(Or, why did you even get married to begin with, because it sounds like you got married for all the "WRONG" reasons?!)

Answer 9

Do your wife some justice give her a choice before you infect her with something .Get a divorce.Then you don't have to cheat an keep yourself respect.Why do you want her in your way anyways.

Answer 10

Its your life you can do what ever you want....but dont you think that when the consequences of our actions affect somebody else too, we should stop and think for a minute. I am talking about your partner.
Just think how you would feel if your partner does the same thing. and how your partner would feel if he/she finds out.

If you still think its ok...like I said its your life....