my man and i hooked up in august originally for a week, it was amazing. I then went back home to hawaii for a month and met another man. And I quickly fell for him instead! after that man left me, only a month later. i flew back to seattle and starting seeing my current boyfriend again. I never told him about the other guy, until yesterday when he found dated pictures of him on my computer! we were not techinically together so i wasnt cheating, but he is still really hurt and mad at me! He will hardly talk to me. I think that I might love him and care for him very deeply, I have no idea what to say to him that will make him understand that! HELP!!!!
2007-02-22 06:20:05 · 12 answers · asked by stacy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i dont think u should try to make him understand, i think u should show him. show him how much u love and care for him. make him feel loved by u. make him see that the other guy was just a figment of ur imagination, make him know that he is the 1 and only 4 u. if u cant show him this then he might just feel that u r just a cheater. GOOD LUCK!!! u can do it.
2007-02-22 06:26:39 · answer #1 · answered by babyblue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, sounds like you didn't break up before you went back to Hawaii, so that means you were still together. You fell for someone else while you were there, he dumped you and then you went back to the boyfriend. Hhhhhhhhhhhmmmmmm sounds like to me that that is considered cheating. He has every right to be mad.
2007-02-22 14:25:11 · answer #2 · answered by Jewel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All he sees is that you cheated on him. Your going to have to find a way to earn his trust back. Why don't you tell him the story you told us. Sounds like mis communication to me. Sounds like he thought you guys were together and you are justifying your fling as you were not together. How would you feel if the situation were reversed? You would probably be on here calling im a dog for cheating on you. Maybe you should let him do someone else, then your even.
2007-02-22 15:07:06 · answer #3 · answered by danzahn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a strong woman, yes one can hurt if they are hurt. But let's be grown up here. You were not int he wrong and if you allow him to play on your feelings about this subject then you possibly need to reevaluate thsi relationship with him. Something so minut but dramatized. You are not obligated to him. I use to allow a man to treat me the same over the same type of situation, I then realized that he was the one that was wrong, in no way shape or form was I. Took me 10 years, but I got there!
2007-02-22 15:07:58 · answer #4 · answered by pricelessww 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you were lonely, and that's why you hooked up with another man. Just tell him that you have him now, and tell him how you feel. I'm sure he had the same feelings for you. Explain to him that, when he's thinking about you, you're thinking of him too. Tell him that you made a mistake that will never happen again. Tell him ur sure of this because he is the one for you, and you wouldn't ever do anything to jeopardize that.
2007-02-22 14:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by Shay 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that you were so lonely when you went to Hawaii that you fell for this other guy on the rebound. But then tell him that it didn't work with the Hawaiian guy because you couldn't stop thinking about HIM. And tell him that no one makes love as good as he does, and that the other guy was no good. Convince him with love for him!!!
2007-02-22 14:26:33 · answer #6 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming you have already told him that it's just him and you now, the best advice I can give you is this: Boys are more easily convinced by actions then by words. SHOW him that you are 100% faithful. Erase the pix, talk to him like you love him, hold his hand in public and tell people that he's your boyfriend in public. Just show him that it's you and him and he'll come around
2007-02-22 14:25:47 · answer #7 · answered by purplemallkitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....you really hurt him. So I think you are lucky that he didn't even dump you. Cross your fingers and hope that he stays with you.....because at this point there is nothing you could do. Good Luck....just stay quiet.
2007-02-22 14:25:09 · answer #8 · answered by Girlwoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were unfaithful and lied.
Lies always catchup with you sometime.
Talk to him and dont cheat again.
Only ***** cheat.
2007-02-22 14:24:58 · answer #9 · answered by tewarienormy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show up naked, bring beer. I'm a guy. It always works!
2007-02-22 14:23:38 · answer #10 · answered by drunkandisorderly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋