and found this disturbing.The poor man was 'forced' by the good doctor to tell why he did what he did.She indicated that it could be something to do with his childhood.He pondered and tears rolled down and he said "My father never listened to me......" "That's it ............" the doctor said.
My question is ," Does everything that happened to us,eventhough it's due to poor choice on our part,related to our childhood.Or is it easier to 'blame' it as such?"
And on another program whereby the man was asked "Did you ever loved her (his mistress)?" How was he suppossed to answer? His wife,the psychiatrist,Oprah and the whole audience was there.Of course he said "No" but I don't believe him!He just said what the people wanted to hear.
On programs such as those mentioned above, the men were always made to look bad.Why do these men subject themselves to the torture of the interrogation?Did their wives forced them?I really want to know what happened when these men go home that day
2007-02-22 06:18:58 · 14 answers · asked by Montana Skye 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They look bad because they are bad. everyone of importance already knows what scum they are. You he will never see again.
2007-02-22 06:22:34 · answer #1 · answered by jazz41 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's quite a few questions. I'll see what I can do to answer them. First, yes everything that has happened in someone's past will affect them and how they react in certain situations for the rest of their lives. Everyone's different and even 2 people who were treated identically will respond differently. So, in your example, the guy who's father didn't listen to him, maybe that caused feelings of inferiority in him that built up over the years. He felt he couldn't talk to his wife because he wasn't worth listening to anyways, so when things got bad he looked elsewhere for what he needed. It doesn't mean it's right, but it does contribute. Is it an easy way out? I don't think so. I'm sure people will use things as an excuse just to lessen the blame on themselves, but I think there really are situations where a person's childhood has scarred them enough to cloud their judgement.
Of course the man with the mistress only said what people wanted to hear, why would he say otherwise? To hear an hour of belittling on the show and then to go home and live with a wife who will hold that against him forever? Nobody needs to know his true feelings other than himself and then he can figure out why he did what he did and if he wants to correct the situation.
Why do the men go on these shows? I have no idea. Either it's just to get on TV for fun, or maybe the wives really did force them as part of their "making it up to" their wives. Or maybe they feel so quilty they feel the need to let people know what they did, and make themselves feel even worse about themselves.
2007-02-22 06:28:20 · answer #2 · answered by meh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do believe that who you are now as an adult is directly related to your experiences while developing the foundation of your character. which happens to be during your childhood.
I think that sometimes talk shows are just trying to help other see reasons for their own actions. but there is no one culprit for all behaviors. heck that guy could just not give a damn and is only there because he was caught in the act. Or maybe he truly loves his wife and will do anything to help his relationship.
But if you watch the show and your gut reaction was that he was lying, he probably was. I mean I think him saying Yes would have open a entire new can of worms that he probably doesn't have enough vacation days from work to handle another O segment.
In any event, people have a variety of reasons for going on shows and hopefully they take the extended therapy sessions usually offered by talk shows when the arrived back at home. But it is great to see things that open your awareness as a viewer.
2007-02-22 06:28:01 · answer #3 · answered by Loyalty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, past experiences affect you -but they don't define you. Each of us has the potential to use what has happened to us as motivation to do things well or let them affect us negatively for the rest of our lives. I also understand that some people are affected more adversely than others, but how long will we allow choices that others made hold us hostage?
It's easy blaming parents, teachers, and our surroundings for not giving us what we should have had growing up. It's easy to blame that ex for 'making' us lose our self esteem. It's easy to blame a group of people for opression. But to me, it's easier to assess the situation, accept that it happened, take full responsibility for my life and use it to motivate me to exceed my circumstances or the jump over or through obstacles in my way. Suck it up and keep moving. Our task is to use what we get and make the best out of it.
Cheating is a supreme act of selfishness and cruelty. It wasn't due to mom or pop. It is the act of a lazy and selfish person. The men on the program made themselves look bad. Why would you go on national television believing that anything redemptive would come out of it? These 'hosts' are after ratings and money. They could care less about the end result after you spill the contents of your life out on the stage for national entertainment. The work should have been done at home and in private between God, the man, his wife, and a counselor.
2007-02-22 06:48:00 · answer #4 · answered by moe497 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, I didn't see that episode but I would like to say how can your childhood effect you cheatin on your wife with her best friend? What in the heck does that have to do with you being faithful. I do believe men/women use that as an excuse b/c your child hood can't effect your behavior unless you have been molested/rape. That is my opinion. Cheatin? What..you saw mom or dad cheatin so you thought it was fine to do it too when you get older? How does that sounds? Nope, I don't believe that. And as far as the guy sayin he didn't fall in love with his mistress. Of course that is a lie. Now think about it, would you be on national television lettin everyone, including your wife, know that you fell in love with the woman you cheated on your wife with?If you have any sense, NO! Last thing, the men probably torture themselves like that because they are tryin to repair things between their wives and that is probably one of the things they have to do. Who knows what the next thing is. (smile)
2007-02-22 06:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by jetta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows...where do they get the morons that appear on Jerry Springer and other "shock TV shows? If you sit and watch the schit then you probably don't have much to do during the day/night.
I suggest that yo volunteer or get a second (or maybe first) job....these shows casue nothing but "stinkin thinkin".....I wonder if these people are really "real" or actors...you're right...who or why would these people subject them selves to this type of abuse?
Try to do someting more productive...like Yahoo answers?..... uh oh...maybe that not that productive...anyway...
Check out the following website..it might be able to offer you a better perspective...rather than watch Oprah...
http://www.condomsbrasandstraightjackets.com/
2007-02-22 06:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At some point, people have to stop blaming their parents and take responsibility for their actions. What on Earth would his father not listening have to do with him cheating on his wife? I think the guy says and does whatever it takes to keep his wife, and if that means being interrogated and humiliated on national television, so be it. Funny, you'd think if he loved his wife enough to go through all of that, he would never have cheated in the first place.
2007-02-22 06:30:19 · answer #7 · answered by Lotus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well they want to be in a National TV show thats all... And yes is easy to blame in everyone us...Thats why people make such excuses about saying because their parents etc...I am a living prove of that is not truth and I am glad I am out of that bunch fools that likes to blame everyone us then themselfs...Each human been have a braibn of their own most of the time don't matter what you have to make your choices and always people chose to do bad because they know it will be easy to blame it on the past and they can get away from it...
2007-02-22 06:27:04 · answer #8 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this goes back to the abuse excuse Dershowitz wrote about in his book where someone else is always to blame for negative behavior by someone. The man who married promised his wife to love only her in his wedding vows. His father had nothing to do with his cheating. It seems more and more today that people always want to blame someone for their own mistakes. I have a friend who was abused as a child by a drunken father. She has never touched alcohol in her life. A child does not have to follow the path of an abusive parent. I think it is time people owned up to their own mistakes rather than blaming someone or a group of people for them.
2007-02-22 06:27:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I`ve wondered the same thing. Don`t you think that the wives at least know the answers in advance? Maybe Oprah is paying big bucks so her ratings go through the roof?
2007-02-22 06:28:03 · answer #10 · answered by MISTY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is power for the direction with a undeniable kind of guy or woman in spite of nationality. in between the previous international cups a German guy shot his mom lifeless through fact she replaced the t.v. channel whilst he replaced into gazing a tournament.soccer and faith do unusual issues to human beings's minds.
2016-10-16 06:24:14 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋