My best friend died 3 yrs ago & i dont feel over it & ever1 saws i should be but how will i know?

Question

she died in a fatal car accident
her and her sister died in the SAME accident
Their mother lost her only 2 children
we were best friends for 5 yrs
i lived with them for a summer
we told each other EVERYTHING
she was getting into drugs
her knee was bad
they were killed by her sister ex fiance
5 ppl were in the car
4 died
my best friend was 15
the "driver" got 80 yrs.

Answer 1

I'm sorry for your loss, but life will move on, whether you want to or not. I say you should get out there and get to know new people. Once your life is busy again, the pain will start to heal.

Answer 2

You will never really get over it and it will be with you forever. Although as time goes by most of the days are easier to get through. But you will have days when something you see or hear will remind you of your friend and you will miss her and feel that void again. I personally have lost my mother and father at a early age and then my grandparents (who raised me) by the time I was 20. I miss them everyday. And everyday at some point I think it would be nice to have them here to see this or help me with that. You feeling will NEVER go away but over time it won't be such a constant feeling. To the person above, who probably has never lost any one at all, or any one they were close to. How can you forget?? To forget is a tragedy with in itself. If you loved that person you never want to forget.

Answer 3

youre focusing on the tragic accident itself instead of the nice relationship you had with your friend. recall not the tragedy and injustice to end life so suddenly, unexpectedly...but recall the friend she was and be grateful for knowing her. tell her....thank you for being my friend...it was great to have known you. tell her what you plan on doing with your life. have a 'talk' with her. then write her a lovely letter with the same thoughts and find a place, a garden or park where you can 'bury' the letter. sit there, have a good cry. Instead of the tragic details you keep thinking of....Your last memory should be recalling the 'talk' and the letter...make that your memory. peace

Answer 4

Remember all the good times your friend and you had. Try not to dwell on the accident. Even if your friend isn't with you physically she's still with you in your heart and mind. See if you can find someone else to share time with. You need friendship in your life to help heal.

Answer 5

I am not going to tell you to get over it like every one else is going to tell you because i know that it is a hard thing to just get over it. you know how when you are not happy and people tell you to be happy? if it was as easy as that then i think we would all be doing that alot more then we are. it is going to be hard and you are going to have hard tim,es and there are going to be times where you are going to crash but you will be able to make it no matter what.... i believe that you can di it if you really try.

Answer 6

forget and liv peacefully