I don't understand! I know that men are "supposed" to be or are "hard wired" to be LESS sensative than women....but why are some men practicly VOID of sensativity all together? And when men are in a serious relationship, why wouldn't the fact that their loved one is hurt bother them?
2007-02-22 06:11:18 · 22 answers · asked by Courtney 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
testosterone causes hardening of many areas in men!
Notably: penis, heart, brain, stubborness
2007-02-22 06:17:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Greetings,
A person that loves you will never hurt you intentionally. With that understood, it is also common for people (not only men) to speak before they think. Many women understand the feelings that can be incurred by making a scathing comment to someone (this is why many women have the ability to be so calculating). However with men, they do not always think about how what they are saying or doing is going to hurt someone, they have this slightly "Neanderthal" mentality that makes them rather ruff around the edges in behavior and words.
And like the "Neanderthal" they sometimes can step on a flower and not realize that they have until maybe someone points it out to them or they accidentally take notice. Then sometime they are too embarrassed at their own behavior to take ownership of it.
In closing, you have to have your own standards on how you will allow other to treat you. it is not your job to change the world, but you can be more protective of your own feelings and not allow dumbass people to trample over them because they are unaware how delicate they may be.
2007-02-22 06:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by Loyalty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a matter of differences in viewpoints. Men can as equally claim that women are "hypersenstive" than men. The fact of the matter is that is a man does something wrong, he should take ownership for it and try to make amends. On the same note, if a man says something and it can be take two ways, one that is 'ok' and the other one is 'wrong' we mean the first one. Why would we want to say something that hurts you? Even if we are that callious our own selfish interests is in not living in conflict. Communication is a two way street, their is the broadcasting of information and the interpreting of it. If a man broadcasts something and someone interprets it in a manner that he didn't mean, who is a fault? No one. It is not your fault, after all your heard was your intreptation. It is also not his fault, he knew what he was trying to say. It is just a breakdwon in communication.
2007-02-22 06:22:20 · answer #3 · answered by Charles B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think men are insensitive at all, they're just different from us. Just because he is not showing emotion doesn't mean he's not feeling it. I think many women equate attention and reaction from men as a means of measuring how much they care. If women embrace this concept, they will never be happy and probably send any man running for the hills.
2007-02-22 06:22:53 · answer #4 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think men are insensitive, I think they are practical. To express emotion takes away from other crucial male processes. Truly men have a hard time understanding somethings and emotion is one of them. The one place he wants to let his guard down is when he is at home, try not to step on him just keep asking him to try to pay more attention to the specific things that you need, give him a list and keep reminding him. He will catch on. Don't push to hard he won't be able to hear you, another male auto defense. Good luck
2007-02-22 06:25:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you to read the following books
1. Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus
2. Why Men Cant listen and Women cant read maps.
You will know the answer. Its simple, its the Nuero Wiring problem. This bio engineering developed over the years...
2007-02-22 06:17:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the kind of men that you are talking about. I dated enough of them in the past. You are probably attracted to the insensitive kind without realizing it. There are men out there that are kind. I am married to one of them right now. There are plenty more where he came from, but this kind of man isn't usually out there actively flirting with the ladies. You will probably have to find them. I hope you find a good one soon. Good luck!
2007-02-22 06:24:22 · answer #7 · answered by magicmunchkins 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Too bad you've met the wrong men. As far as I'm concerned a good woman is the best thing that can happen to a man. I would listen to her, comfort her, nurture her, and hug her often.
2007-02-22 20:47:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they were never taught to be sensitive by their mother is why. For SO long in society it has been viewed as UN manly to show emotion or care. Once in awhile you see a man who was raised right. Most men think by showing emotions that it makes them vulnerable and that they will be hurt.
2007-02-22 06:18:23 · answer #9 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it depends on the man and how they are raised....i was raised by my grandmother along with 4 sisters with old fashion style values....most say im very sensative...i treat people like i want to be treated....i know some though who were raised right and still do things the wrong way....open and honest communication in the start of a relationship helps...without it things can be very gloom and dim
2007-02-22 06:17:46 · answer #10 · answered by kevin c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must be hangin with boys, not men. The immature attitude you are talking about is rare in the mature man.
2007-02-22 06:15:20 · answer #11 · answered by rilindy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋