When is the right time to get pregnant?

Question

I'm probably only thinking about this now because I'm hormonal and I want to get pregnant. Of course, I know how important it is to be financially stable. But what does that mean exactly? When do you know if you're "financially stable"? My fiance and I are getting married next January. We are just out of college so we are looking for careers, etc. How far into starting a career should you wait before TTC? I would like to try and have a family while we are still relatively young so that we can still have a lot of energy by the time our children are starting their own families.

And also...does anyone else (during certain times of the month) feel like you want to be pregnant right now? It's almost overwhelming. Even when you know it's not a good time? Just curious...

Answer 1

If I were you I would become pregnant before I launch my career. That's what I wish I did. Now I have a great job and upset because I want to stay home and care for my child, but I don't want to miss out on work; it's hard. You don't want to become established just to have to start all over again.

Answer 2

children are expensive... so financially stable means that you are able to support yourself and the child without it being a burden. without having to ask for help from say the government or someone else. i would say get a stable job, since you are just out of college i'm guessing you are what? 21 or 22?? (graduated from college at 21 myself so just a guess). also wait until you are married, especially since its not all that far away. if you get pregnant sometime soon, you might still be pregnant when that time comes, and possibly still have the pregnancy weight. what does your fiance say about this? a year isn't going to make or break ya when it comes to a baby. wait until after you get married, in my opinion, and in the mean time enjoy your last year before you get married. see if you think you can support another being financially since you are just now graduation from school. sometimes life is a little different than you had planned.

i felt like i wanted to have a family from time to time. my husband and i found out i was pregnant shortly after getting engaged. and let me tell ya it is difficult. we have twins, so is probably more financially, but still not easy. even with the support of the marines (hes in the USMC). if you do know its not a good time like you mentioned, then wait! if its meant to be it will happen, but don't rush it.

Answer 3

FYI, if you wait to be financially stable, you will never have children. There is always something you will want: a house, a car, an HD TV, and so on. You have to ask yourself instead if you are ready to sacrifice some of those things on top of your freedom and personal time. You won't be able to just pick up and go on vacation when you want to and romance will be slightly ebbed by the new addition. But if all those things take a back seat to your biological clock, then go for it. As long as you feel responsible enough to care for another human being and your fiance is just as enthusiastic, I say go for it.

A lot of people give me funny looks when I walk on campus with my 36 week pregnant belly, but they don't understand that I have a great support system at home and am going to get a lot of help from my family when the baby comes.

Do what feels right and what is fair for your fiance and baby.

Answer 4

As long as your financially, physical, emotionally ready for a child meaning you have a nice home, good income(enough to pay for all bills, food, clothing, diapers, doctor visits, day care ect) and both you and your husband are ready emotionally then do what you want it's your life. Keep in mind that having a baby changes everything and has a huge impact on your relationship with your fiance. It would be a good idea to wait a while at least until after you two are no longer newlyweds just so you can have that time to yourselves and just have fun...

Answer 5

All I have to say is, it is so much harder to actually plan to get pregnant than when it is an oops!

My first was a total oops and I was not in a great place financial and school and all that happy stuff but, I was like OK we can do this and we did.... This time it was planned and we talked about it for 4months..we talked about money and future and the kids we have already and tons and tons of things.....it is a lot!! One night we were like OK, lets try this and see and I got pregnant the first time.......I guess you are never 100000% ready, you will never have enough money, your job will never be stable enough but, you will def know if you are ready to love and care for a new baby and love them forever!!!! ;o)

Good luck!!

Answer 6

Being financially stable is important, but not as important as being emotionally stable. To be emotionally stable, you must be prepared to commit every single moment of your life to the well-being of another human being. You must be willing to sacrifice going out with friends to care for your little one. You must be ready to devote all everything to this little one. Trust me, raising a child is tough work, but the most rewarding thing anyone can do with their lives.

Answer 7

You'll know what's best for you. It sounds like you really want a baby, so when you are confident that it's the right time you'll know. Just don't rush it, enjoy your life now.