What do I do? I feel like with all of school and cheer and my boyfriend, I just have no more time with friends. I still have my friends but none of them are in my classes really. Well anyways my best friend lied to me, and she's friends with the whole rest of the cheer squad. I never yell at anyone or get up in their face about anything and I always try not to be annoying and I just try my hardest at everything..I was #1 last year out of like 600 students..so I always try but people say they hate me. No matter what i do, someone is always just trying to screw me up and ruin my life it seems like. I, as of right now, usually sit in my classes with noone to talk to. - well i guess just cheer really. Well, back to my friend, her boyfriend was going to have a party and i really didnt care if i was invited or not, but it was a surprise for him. So she invited ALL of my friends, except me, she tries to act now like she didnt even do anything, of course, but anyways...i dont know what to do.
2007-02-22 06:03:40 · 11 answers · asked by karatechoppinbarbie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You cant make peolpe like you or want to be around u if they dont want to. If that is how they treat you than you dont need them as friends any way, right. I have learned not to depend on your friends they will eventually let you down. People usually have something against over acheavers because they make them look bad. Your quest for excellence and a good attitude is a wonderfull thing keep up the good work!
2007-02-22 06:12:42 · answer #1 · answered by alaskan know it all 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm only going to address the problem with your friend, because it seems the most serious. The only person whose actions you can control is you. If you feel alone because of what someone else did then, sadly, there is very little you can to change their behavior, and thereby alleviate your own feelings. What you can do is try to not make or let other people feel alone, as this is something you can control. This implies realizing that the problem is not specific to you, but is part of being human. It is also your responsibility as an over-achiever, that is to SEE MORE of what's going on than just your own perspective, and to act accordingly.
2007-02-22 14:35:22 · answer #2 · answered by jproche5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can ONLY control you. If you are genuine & kind eventually people will take notice. If your "Friend" is excluding you from activities then was she really your friend? You have to learn to be your own friend because everybody will not like you and you just have to learn to deal with that. I am sure with a school with the population of 600 you are bound to have a friend somewhere. Just continue to be the BEST you you can be and people will follow.
2007-02-22 14:15:37 · answer #3 · answered by Friday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people purposely exclude you, they are trying to make you feel left out, unliked, and bad. WHat you do is NOT GIVE MEAN PEOPLE WHAT THEY WANT. Do you like this girl? If the answer is no, then DO NOT GIVE HER WHAT SHE WANTS. Make it til you fake it, sweetheart. Do your best to prove that you will not be excluded. That you have friends. Go out there and make some new friends. Do things with them. When it becomes apparent that she will not get WHAT SHE WANTS, then she will try again. Don't despair...she WANTS you to be down. No matter what happens, don't let it work.
2007-02-23 16:41:01 · answer #4 · answered by FavoredbyU 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that girl obviously isnt very much of a friend to you. i do know how you feel though. ive always been sort of the outcast in all my classes. i have friends of course, but because of the way my last name comes in order, im always put with all of the jocks and cheerleaders. all of whom hate me..for no apparent reason. so i basically keep to myself until i can see my friends outside of school. if i were you, id keep doing your best. it seems to me like you have a serious future ahead of you. keep up your cheering, your schoolwork, and just wait for that perfect friend to come along. you only find a few in life, and when you find them..it will be worth the wait.
2007-02-22 14:16:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The good news is that soon you will graduate and move on from all this immature stuff. I never like school because I never felt like I belonged. But after graduation it was great. Life actually began on my terms! Look to the future. Think about how and what you want to do after graduation. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-02-22 14:51:08 · answer #6 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually being on cheer does that. They get all "dramatic" about everything. You should probaly spend less time with your boyfriend and spend more time finding better friends. Good Luck! =)
Krissy
2007-02-22 14:33:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are so intelligent, people have difficulty seeing the nice side of you and think (sorry) that you are stuck up. We both know this isn't true. So start talking to people, don't mention your grades, just let them get to know YOU. The gal behind the valedictorian :) Good luck :)
2007-02-22 14:15:50 · answer #8 · answered by Kaylie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, PLEASE see the writing on the wall, they are jealous of you ! I had "friends" like that in school, and I was always trying to make them like me, but they never did, they expected me to kiss their a** all the time and I got tired of trying to please them. Do your own thing for awhile, I guarantee one of them will be the receiphant of the same treatment you are getting after they forget about you, and will contact you and want to befriend you again. Whoever the "ring leader" is, will be out of friends soon, GUARANTEED. Wait it out, stand your ground, and dont kiss a** for nasty little girls who like to gang up on nice people and take their friends away. You can do better for friends. Snub them and turn the tables on them, soon, very soon they will be kissing your a**. Teach them biotches a lesson. Make them come to you, dont be a sucker or the fallguy who has to be a "follower", and not a leader. Demand respect, you deserve it, dont let them wenches lead you to them, make them come to you and you will never have this problem again. Your young, this too shall pass....If you really want to piss them off, get the cutest guy in school to like you, show them whos boss, than you can snub them ! Friends like that are not friends. You can do better.
2007-02-22 14:16:13 · answer #9 · answered by kimmy3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me just say, I hate girls! They are so mean! I know that if you are as talented and motivated as you say, it's just jealousy. It sounds Jerry Springer, but honey women are mean and jealous and hate other women who are successful. Just be cautious with you you choose as friends and be glad you learned this lesson now.
2007-02-22 14:14:40 · answer #10 · answered by O.K. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋