ok.ive known this guy for like three years and we just casualy talk to each other.more like friends with benifits.he has a girlfriend now and i think i might be pregnate.im scared to tell him because i recall him telling me that he cant get a female pregnate because he smokes too much weed.saying that,i dont want him to deny it if i am.i know he the only guy but i just dont want to feel that and hear that.IF I AM SHOULD I TELL HIM OR JUST WAIT TILL I COULD TAKE A PATERNATY TEST IN THE FUTURE?
2007-02-22 06:01:04 · 34 answers · asked by iLOVEyou 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
If you know for sure that he's the father, tell him as soon as you find out. Otherwise, he'll think that you're up to something and that will cause more problems.
2007-02-22 06:06:09 · answer #1 · answered by angellove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off smoking weed is not a birth control method so if you fell for that one honey, you need to do some reading.
Second make good & sure that you are pregnant before you start talking to anyone.
Third there's the paternity test if he denies the possibility that he could be the father. Tell him you are pregnant once that's confirmed and when he starts the denials then tell him about the paternity test you'll be doing as soon as the baby is born.
2007-02-22 06:08:08 · answer #2 · answered by Lucy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, that myth is not true at all. Smoking weed does not make a man sterile. Been there, done that. My ex- was a total pot head...I mean he had to smoke when he woke up, for lunch, for snack, for dinner, for snack again...you feel me. And he use to say the same thing. If you are pregnant and you know for sure he is the father, then tell him. I don't know what your position is, but my mother always told me that once you decide to have a baby out of wedlock, you have made up in your mind that you in it by yourself...not saying that he would not be a good dad to the child, but you must think like that so that if he was to let you down, it will not hurt as much and you can be strong for your baby.
Please do not end up like those females that you see on Maury ...are you the baby daddy.
Please give him that much respect, even if he doesn't respect you and let him know what is going on, you may be surprised by his reaction.
Good Luck!
2007-02-22 07:02:23 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. Sunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says that he cannot make anyone pregnant because he smokes too much weed than HE IS LIER! There is NO MEDICAL REASON TO NOT GET SOMEONE PREGNANT WHEN SMOKING WEED OR ANY DRUGS! Tell him, if he denies than File complaint against him for Fooling you and getting you pregnant! If he smokes too much weed or takes drugs than there is a Chance he has had some sort of Diseases with him which very much possibly be transfered on to you! If I were You, I would have gone to the Doctor and get tested for all Sexually Transmitted Diseases because I cannot trust a Guy who is a drug addict and who fools girls around by telling them he cannot make anyone pregnant because he Smokes! Well, I wish you luck with your doctor's appointment if you decide on getting tested! Well, if you don't believe me than consult any doctor and ask if a guy smokes too much weed, can he get someone pregnant? And Your doctor will reveal you the truth!
2007-02-22 06:54:41 · answer #4 · answered by Kashif Khundmiri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off find out if you are pregnant first, then go from there. but you do need to tell him, smoking weed doesnt mean that he can't have kids.... hell i know a lot of people from h.s. that did and they seem to have more kids than the rest of us (makes you less reasonable and not make the best decisions). tell him if you are, then do the paternaty test after. why not give the baby up for adoption? guessing you are pretty young (could always be wrong). but you need to think about what is best for that child if you are pregnant.
2007-02-22 06:07:57 · answer #5 · answered by ricleigh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either way he might deny it and their is nothing you can do about it except for having a paternity test done when the baby is born...How old is he? especially if he is young then i wouldn't expect this kid to stay around..By the way you write you sound very young as well...Do your parents know about this? Your saying you might be pregnant...Why the hell havent you taken a test or gone to the doctors....Thats what's wrong with you kids, you don't think, havent you ever heard of protection? If you are pregnant what are you going to do? have your parents raise the kid? Jump up and get on welfare? ugh!
2007-02-22 07:13:49 · answer #6 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to know that you are pregnant before you go telling him that you are. If you take the test and find out that you are then you most definitely need to tell him, and if he denies your baby you can get a paternity test and take him to court and get child support. If you are not pregnant stop having relationships with men that don't mean you any good.
2007-02-22 06:37:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him. If you want a paternity test in the future, he has to coorperate. Understand this siutation now by talking to a lawyer. If you have the baby, he is going to have to pay child support. He has to know - if you have the baby, the baby is going to grow up into someone who wants to know his or her father - and who knows where or what this guy will have become by then.
Talk to your parents, above all. I hope you aren't pregnant -by this 'friend with benefits' and I hope you stop the sexual activity. And stop smoking weed yourself. You've been making some bad decisions. Weed doesn't help judgement.
2007-02-22 06:19:04 · answer #8 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until you are sure that you are pregnant and then tell him. If he does say that there is no way that it could be his, then do the paternity test. I think it is crazy that he thinks he can not get someone pregnant just because he smokes week. That is crazy and a lot of people get pregnant when they are high.
2007-02-22 06:08:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't get a girl pregnant because he smokes too much weed? That is the dumbest thing I ever heard. It does however make him stupid.
Yes, you should tell him. But first find out if you are actually pregnant. There is this new invention called a pregnancy test... you can get it at just about any pharmacy or grocery store.
2007-02-22 06:08:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know you are pregnant and you know the baby is his - then I think you should tell him, he has a right to know. If he doubts you, then get the paternity test done. If you do end up pregnant and there's any chance that the baby is not his then I would get a paternity test to be sure before you say anything.
2007-02-22 08:11:54 · answer #11 · answered by Zabes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋