yeah!
i love him may be deeply.. he's sweet , caring, honest, loving, talented, smart, and his touch is ..ohh wonderful and tender
BUT HEY he's weak and is body language is not very sexy as i like and..no i dont like the way he eats, he doesnt have esteem whch bothers me a lot!.. no experiences too OMG! calm and not social..
what's going on ARE WE FACING A PSYCHO "which is me"?
.............any explainations??
2007-02-22 05:59:19 · 18 answers · asked by i need some real answers! 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
The guy loves you. He makes you feel special.
You are critical of him in areas where he could learn and grow, but you sound impatient.
He has taught you how to love.
Could you not teach him to mature?
If it is not worth the effort to explore his potential, then neither of you will be happy.
2007-03-01 19:24:05 · answer #1 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well sounds like you see both sides of him....and pretty clearly.
The question is...how much do the weak and unlikeable things about him bother you? Because you also have weak points that he has to put up with.
You can try to communicate some of them...the way a person eats are manners he has been taught or not-taught....that can improve if he is aware it bothers you.....but the "weak" comment might be a more serious one....do people take advantage of him....that's not likely to change....can you live with that?
No it is not a psycho...you are pretty clear-sighted....and it's important to pay attention to what you clearly see....some things become real lasting problems when you have children, etc....so it's important to think about it...and also the social thing will affect your life too. Is he just shy....or does he dislike being with people....that can matter.
2007-03-01 23:13:08 · answer #2 · answered by samantha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There you are, you just got told by the very few
Drop him and try to find your ideals.
You don't love him if you seem to be meticulous over little things, which i don't see anything wrong with them at all.
There is no need to be elegant to eat. Unless you're in a social gathering. The manner of eating is something personal, he can eat with his bare fingers and that is totally none of your business.
His self-esteem as you saw is low, why can't you help him boost it up instead of whining about it.
Love doesn't condemn, instead it covers all the wrongs.
2007-03-02 07:53:09 · answer #3 · answered by oscar c 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My explanation is simply this. You don't love him. You may love certain things about him, but not him.
When you truly love someone (and I am not talking about new relationship love) you appreciate their shortcomings as being what makes them unique. If you are looking for someone who is perfect in every way, you are destined to be the loneliest person in the world.
And dropping somone because they have low self esteem?? What is that? How about building up their confidence instead. Confidence is actually a pretty easy thing obtain in respect to other personality "flaws".
2007-02-22 14:13:41 · answer #4 · answered by Drakus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You loving him and being in love with him is two different things.... it is apparent that your love for him is based on all the wrong things... you are looking at all the silly things to make you not like him... many woman would kill for all the qualities you have named but you are letting body, eating and meagerness ruin ir for you... let him go so that he can find a woman that is going to appreciate a hard working man
2007-02-22 14:09:24 · answer #5 · answered by crazeebitch2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying and wasting your energy on this person.
He is not right for you, that is why you have so many complaints.
You will meet someone who loves you and that you feel 100% good about and then everything will be sweet, without the heartache.
Trust me you will, just be strong and hold on until that time.
Good luck
2007-03-02 08:44:26 · answer #6 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let go of some of your expectations before you loose a good man.
No one is perfect.. and all his areas of weaknesses could be helped. Maybe he has no esteem because you are expecting so much from him.
Dont mean to sound so harsh....You need to change your ways. The problem is with you.....
2007-02-28 00:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by italianmami7447 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you dont feel anything....
tell him that you dont like the why he eats...
that is nice that is Sweet and caring and everything else that you like about him....
you are no PSYCHO!!!!
and maybe he is still a virgin and he wonts to what until he is marryed....
or he just really bad at things....
make him social make him get out there and stop begin shy and talk to people...
and if his esteem is really low..
then i think its time to say bye-bye....
2007-02-22 14:12:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are finding faults in him already, you should let him get on with his life and you with yours. If you really loved him you have to have a certain amount of tolerance, respect and overlook petty things. It really does seem like you have more dislikes about him than good things.
2007-03-02 12:59:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nobody is perfect everything that you can shoot off in a list about about him I'm sure he can do the same about you so I found out .
to love someone means to love them with all there faults in spite of everything else and everyone else.
besides your never going to find the perfect man because your not perfect.
2007-02-27 18:44:39 · answer #10 · answered by cute as a button 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋