OK so i dont know if you remember a question i asked a while ago with my cousin talking about how he hates gay people, but now its my brother. heres what happend-
We were in my living room, i was on the computer he was watching TV, and then he truned on a show were its about a personal trainer, hes into working out so i wasnt surprised he put it on. So later in the show we found 2 people were lesbian/gay he starts to talk about how " i want to be in this business, but its filled with gays!" (me learning from my cousin question you guys said not to laugh at gay jokes, so i didnt laugh like id normally do) and then he says " im not homophobic, but id feel REALLY uncomferable if a gay person were next to me" ( me being bi, i feelt like he knew i was bi. but then he left so i think he dsoesnt know.) so now what do i do. EVERYONE in my family is homophobic!!!!
2007-02-22 05:55:23 · 7 answers · asked by The Con 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Sounds like they just need to chill, and you too. Be yourself and don't hide anything. If you act like it's a non-issue for you, it'll be a non-issue for them.
2007-02-22 05:59:24 · answer #1 · answered by eschampion 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol, I can't help but laugh, because I know exactly what you mean. I remember being in the closet, and the issue of homosexuality comes up, and I would freeze up, because I thought everybody knew. My older brother would constantly speak out against gay people... against even our own gay cousins. I was sure that when i finally told him, (and the rest of my 4 brothers and sisters), they wouldn't be shocked, and they would hate me.
None of them had a clue, and none of them cared really.... yes, it was shocking and different at first, but family is family, and they proved that to me. I've never been as close to my family as I am now.
Give your family some trust. They say those mean things about homosexuals, but don't even realize that you are. Once they realize that you are bi, and you've listened to then talk bad about homosexuality, they will probably open their eyes. Make sure they KNOW that you didn't CHOOSE this... but it's apart of you.... good luck with whatever happens in your future... and remember... when you are in the closet, you tend to be extra-paranoid about everything... so remember not to get yourself too worried about WHO KNOWS, cause they probably don't have a clue anyway.
2007-02-22 14:17:19 · answer #2 · answered by AckDuScheisse!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At this point you have three main choices. First you can slowly teach them about famous gay or bi people that will shock them and so they can get use to gay and bi people. Teach them how gay or bisexual people are just like everyone else. Second, tell them about yourself if you do not think they will just disown you and kick you out in an instant. They need to know some gay or bi people to start to accept it. Lastly if they do not listen, I think it may be time to look for other places to live where you are not in constant fear.
2007-02-22 14:10:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could point out to him that he meets gay people everyday, but would never know it. They aren't giving any clues to their orientation because they don't interact with him on a level where that becomes important - they're just going on with their day-to-day lives. When a gay person is working, they're going to be professional. A gay doctor is going to be a doctor, and save lives. Not hit on people while he's doing a check-up. A lesbian pilot's going to fly the plane, not take a break to chat up the stewardess. They're just people, and they aren't going to hit on him just because he's there. Does he really think he's so attractive that they just can't help themselves 24/7? Please.
The only reason he's uncomfortable is because he's insecure, not because anything about being gay/bi gives reason for other people's discomfort. He shouldn't hold himself back from a job he wants, but he also shouldn't blame his discomfort on other people and their orientation.
2007-02-22 14:04:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude...relax. Everyday you'll have weird situations. But as you get older they will seem less tragic. Just try to be cool and forget about the homophobics going on all around you. My whole family and extended family are totally flaky about the subject. When I hear stuff I just block it out. It's because I know I'm better than they are really.
2007-02-22 14:14:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sucks, man, for sure. I haven't actually seen your other posts but I hope things work out for you in the long run.
Peeeace out!
2007-02-22 14:01:25 · answer #6 · answered by cali haze 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's hard to change everybody in a family. they have the weight of numbers; just don't make any waves for right now.
2007-02-22 14:05:16 · answer #7 · answered by robert2020 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋