I have a good female friend (who has a boyfriend). I am thinking of buying a handbag worth £100-£200 (which I know she wants) for my friend cos she has been really nice to me recently. How would you interpret such a gift if you received it?
2007-02-22 05:51:26 · 44 answers · asked by Wing commander 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That is way too much, and her boyfriend will go mental! You are sweet to think of such a thing, but really, a card saying how grateful you are will be less awkward and more appropriate. You don't want her to think you fancy her do you? Or do you? I have a little inkling that you do?
2007-02-22 05:55:01 · answer #1 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would be chuffed to bits if a friend gave me a wicked present like that. I can, however, see how it could be misinterpreted, especially by her boyfriend. Could you not give her some gift vouchers, to say half the value of the bag, and just say something along the lines of "I know you really want that bag, and as you've been such a good friend to me, I wanted to help you on your way to buying it" That way there's less chance of it being seen as an attempt to push your friendship further. Thats my opinion!
2007-02-22 05:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by lululaluau 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it's a good idea on the surface, i wouldn't if i were u. The boyfriend might go nuts thinking there's something going on between the two of u. You could let the boyfriend know about this, so he could buy it for her instead or you could find something else to buy that doesn't cost as much as that or clear it up with the boyfriend by getting permission (might sound silly or even worse stupid...but you'll never know).
I don't know how this friend is like, but if you know her as much you say u do, shouldn't you know how she'd react to the gift or u don't know her that well...??
2007-02-22 06:05:02 · answer #3 · answered by stephanie b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she know how much the bag is? If she does then she will probably think that you want something more than friendship. Plus the fact, when her other half finds out he will think the same. Buy her a present, but not such an expensive one
2007-02-22 08:33:09 · answer #4 · answered by fallenangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would thank you so much. Girls have a thing for purses and if she told you she liked it then she will be happy that you actually listened to her about what she wanted. But, don't expect anything from it if she has a boyfriend. Maybe you could wait for a special occasion like her birthday or something. Also, that way her boyfriend might not interpret it the wrong way.
You would make a good boyfriend for someone. I mean, you really listen to girls and you know how to please one (by buying cute purses! lol. j/k).
By the way, what type of bag is it? Is it brand name like Coach, Dooney and Burke, Prada, Armani, etc.? Those things can get expensive but the are really cute.
Good luck and keep us updated!
2007-02-23 05:42:59 · answer #5 · answered by rismonstar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like an awfully expensive gift to give to "just a friend." She may interpret it as: a) you like her and want to be more than friends, b) you want something from her i.e. big favor that she would be obligated to do or c) she may feel like she has to retailiate with an expensive gift for you in the future. Take her out to lunch. Buy her a gift card for a manicure/spa treatment with a note saying something along the lines of how you want to do something nice for her now. Good luck.
2007-02-22 05:59:00 · answer #6 · answered by cyber_groupie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Want the right interpretation, put a friendship card with it. And write in it " thanx for being such a good friend to me over (period of time u knw her for) and u're friendship is worth more to me than what money could ever buy. THANX!"
2007-02-22 06:32:09 · answer #7 · answered by #1hotgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have got some bloke friends that do buy me some presents if you want to is it her birthday coming up or someting? Get the handbag then and say happy birthday or something or just get it if you want and get a thank you card and the present and say thank you very much you have been there for me when i needed someone the most and i just want to repay you for being there 4 me. Or something like that do you know what i mean?
2007-02-22 09:49:27 · answer #8 · answered by julie p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
although she would probably love the gift she might think that you are giving it to her with intentions other than friendly. and her bf is going to go nuts. So i would either get her something less fancy or give her the purse and write her a letter in which you are clear that this is just a thanks for her being such a great friend.
2007-02-22 06:02:57 · answer #9 · answered by Lovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be really embarassed and think that such a generous gift only came with 'complications' .I would also worry what my boyfriend would make of the 'gesture'. Why can't you just thank her verbally?
2007-02-22 10:44:11 · answer #10 · answered by saddo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋