2007-02-22 05:51:25 · 17 answers · asked by tosh the 5th 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We Irish drink our selves stupid after funerals!!!
2007-02-22 05:54:09 · answer #1 · answered by Relax Guy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First I was angry, then confused. I cried a lot and felt really depressed. I just couldn't understand why God would let it happen. The hardest part was trying not to let my Mom see how upset I was so I did most of my crying in the shower. I also felt like any minute he'd walk into the door. So denile was a big thing. To this day there are things that make me cry. I guess you grieve forever in a way. But the anger lessens.
2007-02-22 06:20:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take ages to accept it, I always feel like I'm falling when I hear of a death, even if it's a famous person or something. I spend a few days in shock and then the sadness and anger kick in. i never totally lose that feeling of shock and helplessness though, when ever I think now of the deaths of those I have known and loved I still remember exactly how it felt the first few days. I guess I just let ime do the healing, as much as it can.
2007-02-22 05:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get really angry & pissed off at first and wonder why ... then after that it really hits me and I'll feel sad and want to cry about it ... but after crying about it for so long I start to wonder what good does that do ... so I'll move on to keeping myself super busy ... work hard and play hard ... hang out with my friends and family and remember all the fun times I had with the person who just passed away ... it's a endless cycle .... but it's Anger that I feel the strongest about - since I have no control over who dies and who lives ... I think it's best to put yourself around others that will comfort you and understand where you're coming from ... friends & family are the # 1 way I deal with death ... they keep me sane ... !
2007-02-22 06:04:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone grieves in their own way. It also depends on the relationship you had with the person you're grieving for.
I agree with Kate J - in the UK we tend to suppress our feelings more than other societies, she's probably right in that it makes the grieving process longer.
2007-02-23 06:01:26 · answer #5 · answered by SonicSon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In our family we get together for a big family dinner after the funeral. We comfort each other, we bond as a family, we talk about the special times we had with that person and some of the funny things they did and said. We cry, we laugh, and we cry some more, but it helps us to move on. Although we know we will always miss the person that passed away, we also know that we are all a part of something bigger. Our family.
2007-02-22 06:12:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try best you can to focus on loved ones who are still alive. Remember that you need each other in times like this more than ever. Try not to dwell on the misery, but allow yourself time to grieve and get it out of your system. Talk to people and share your feelings with those you trust.
And hopefully, stay strong for those around you.
2007-02-22 05:54:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's unique to each and every one of us as there's so many factors that can affect they way we grieve.
I'm grieving the death of my husband. It entails the most painful all consuming feelings i've ever known. And my grief is different to the children's because of their age and relationship they've lost.
I think in this country we suppress our feelings more which invariably leads to a longer period of intense grief. We should howl, and beat our hearts if we want, as they do in the Middle East
2007-02-22 06:00:45 · answer #8 · answered by Kate J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes a great deal of time but each of us is different and each grieve our own way whatever way it is never easy
2007-02-22 06:11:27 · answer #9 · answered by weebobby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write a letter to the person and let them know how your feeling or what you may be thinking about what had happened. Or write a letter to someone (doesn't matter who) or blog about how happy you were to have that person in your life. As time fades so does pain. You will soon forget things so put it on paper so you'll never forget what you felt at that moment. Sorry for you loss.
2007-02-22 06:10:40 · answer #10 · answered by hollybear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my son 2 years ago. The only way I get through it is to tell myself it was his time to go. I have 2 grown children and I try to stay strong for them. They are what gets me through this. It is getting better day by day but I will never ever totally get over it. My son was 26 and we lost him on Christmas day.
I also agree with Raymond K
2007-02-22 07:10:59 · answer #11 · answered by I love winter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋