cure for vaginismus?

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does anyone know how to overcome this condition?

Answer 1

Hi,

The cure for vaginismus is different for everyone. Most women will have to use a set of graded dilators which you can either buy online (www.vaginismus.com) or you could use vibrators, or even homemade dilators (candles, vegetables, tampons, or fingers!). So for example, you would start with a very slim dilator, then as you got comfortable with that, you would move up to one which is slightly thicker and so on until you can insert a penis sized object. Then you are ready to try intercourse! It is basically a case of showing the vagina, and the woman with vaginismus, that inserting objects into her vagina doesn't have to hurt.

Make sure you use lots of lubricant on the dilators as it makes things so much easier and many people find it helpful to be aroused when they dilate as the vagina will then not only stretch, it will produce it's own natural lubricant.

There are other things you can do to help cure vaginismus, you can try yoga, pilates, sensate focus exercises (basically a special massage program which involves gradually moving up to touching the genitals), physical therapy, therapy in general, hypnosis, alternative therapies, and even botox.

It really depends a lot on the severity of the vaginismus but in most cases, you should be able to cure it with dilators and lube alone. If not then I would try a therapist and only after that would I consider trying any of the other things - except for the sensate focus massage which you might want to do because it's fun :o)

Be aware that curing vaginismus is a process that can take time. Some get over it in a matter of weeks, others months, and some take years to cure it completely.

By the way, somebody else has answered and said that vaginismus is generally a response to childhood trauma or something? Well that is absolutely not true. As someone who has studied vaginismus widely, and is actually carrying out her own research on vaginismus, the majority of women who have vaginismus did not experience any childhood trauma. In fact, lots of women simply don't know why they have it. So yeah, that's a myth and vaginismus can be caused by all manner of things!

All the best,

Gayle x

Answer 2

yes women have a hymen but because we are more active as youngsters eg sport, dancing etc etc it breaks naturally before you even think of sex. And yes the vagina is designed to stretch to allow a baby out so any hang ups you have about sex will be self created by reading an article that will freak you out and then you will clam shut to avoid the thing that you are scared about eg sex/ I had this problem for nearly 6 years and the only thing that worked in sorting this out was called a vagi-wave, and yes even I found it stressful to confront this fear, but this little gadget did the trick and I have been vaginismus free for near 2 years. It will haunt you forever if you don't get this vaginsimus nipped in the bud so consider getting a vagi-wave as a private purchase, they do sell out fast though because they are mainly exported, so if you can get one on line then snap it up. I am pleased I did because there was no pain or stretching it all happened when I was asleep :) But it is down to all etc.

Answer 3

There is loads of information on www.vagi-wave.co.uk. They treat vaginismus as a psychosomatic issue with the vagi-wave which you use for 21 nights. It helped me. I had primary vaginismus (could not even insert a q tip). I can now easily insert tampons. I had sex with my husband for the first time in 2 years recently and there was no problem. Yes no problem. My problem was definitely psychological but it is always worth checking with your doctor in case there is something more sinister going on.

It has changed my life completely.

Definitely worth a look.

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Answer 5

I know someone who had this condition and she bought a kit online which came with help guides etc and also increasingly sized vibrator things (which dont vibrate btw!) to get the vagina used to taking something inside again. Obv start small get bigger..!i think it came with info on what exercises to do with these over a period of time. I would get checked out before using this and maybe look at the mental side of it but this may help. sorry i havent got any websites but it was a while ago but if you search online im sure you will find it. I think it was about £30 and it really helped her.

Answer 6

the condition is generally a post-traumatic stress reaction to a childhood trauma. have the sufferer visit a medical doctor to rule out any condition that physically may cause the symptoms. the doctor can give her a referral to a pyschologist who specializes in sexual dysfunctions, if needed. is she goes the counseling route, it will be a long and exhausting journey. the payoff is a healthy sex life in the future.

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