dont feel worthy of love or that i can be liked from any pretty girl, i have no self confidence?

Question

read my other questions and youll see why...im terrified of going through the rest of my life isolated and alone, im 29 and its been like that up to now. find it difficult to even talk to girls. EXTREME LOW SELF WORTH.. FOCK!! i dont just want any one either i wanna meet pretty girls. have fun, meet someone young and attractive...i cant see that happening..im alone everyday in my one bedroom flat. struggling with mental health problems. inner rage, paranoid feelings, feelings of detachment, dissacotiation, derealisation, lonelyness, despair, terrible low moods where i cant get dressed. and no one gives a FOCK about me, no ones throwing me a lifeline. if i do have a severe personality disorder, how will i get well? im awaiting a second opinion. i here most people with severe personality disorders cant get be treated...ive learnt to recently i might not be able to emmegrate from the uk because of my mental health history and that i was sectioned so this might prevent me..answer these

questions please, what should i do im despairing? someone paint a picture of hope for me...my next door neighbour, a chubby pretty girl 0f 19 is being humped next door as i type, and i can hear the headboard banging against the wall, and i feel tormented by the high pitched whimpering, ba**stards, wish i was having fun, but its only a dream to me

im disfigured i have two bottom front missing teeth..AAAAARRRRGH

fockinell i cant stand the whimpering...thud..thud. beds sqeaking like mad...

Answer 1

Aww. Im so sorry you feel this way. I've been there and i'm still there most of the time. I would suggest seeking help from a therapist or pschycologist. It kind of sounds to me like you have bornerline personality disorder, which is what I have.

There is treatment for personality disorders. Don't give up hope.

Answer 2

Here's what you need to do:
You need to be practical rather than psychological or philosophical or whatever. You cannot sit around waiting for something to change your life; YOU have to put the effort in and believe me coz I learned it the hard way and I of all people know it's easier said then done.
I've gone through phases of feeling desperately lonely. You need to go out and find some people you have things in common with. Set your aims low so you can feel good and gain confidence when you achieve them. I'd suggest joining some kind of club or organisation or take lessons in learning a new skill and get talking to the people you meet no matter how shy you feel. You have to reach out to people to get feedback. I've learnt the only way to deal and overcome fears is by facing them not hiding and waiting for change.
Don't think about whether you have mental health issues because this is also a waste of time. Doctors and people can only give a certain amount of help. The only one who can really make things right is YOU.
You know you want your life to change and not be lonely anymore so go out and do something about it, even if you're not sure. The more you achieve the more confidence you'll gain. It does take time but I promise in the long term it will be worth it.
Best of luck. At least we're nearly out of Winter.

Answer 3

I don't need to read your other questions. They don't matter. What matters is what you're saying now. Everything that happens in a persons life is part of "the plan". Always remember that first. But, more importantly the energy that you are putting out around you is the energy that you are attracting also. Hence, if you put out negativity you pull in negativity. I'm very serious about this. Think about walking in a park. You approach two people for directions - one is smiling - the other has a scowl on their face. Who are you going to ask? The smiling face right? Absolutely. We all need positive energy but we all can't have it if we emit negativity. Don't say terrible things about yourself. Believe in yourself.....I don't care if you don't have ANY teeth.....lighten up. YOU have to put out a positive level of energy. Be happy to be alive.....smile, sing, think happy thoughts. It will take work but if this is what you truly want you can have it. I promise you...YOU CAN HAVE IT. You must read the book called "the Secret"...it's even available on CD. Google it. It will change your life forever. You will get down the road in a few years and look back on this and be so happy you did this. Please, believe me - but more important....believe in YOU!!!!

Answer 4

Some people do not meet anyone until much later in life, and that is perfectly fine. You are not going to get any girls by worrying about getting girls, that is for sure. It sounds like you need some friends. What do you like to do? Go out and find others who are interested in the same things. The only way you will get better at talking to girls is to try it. My little brother is mentally ill and I wonder sometimes if he will ever find love. Heck, I wonder if I will. I trust that if God wants me to have love, God will put it in my life. You should do the same and worry about loving yourself before trying to get it from others.

Answer 5

Get help. You can't expect a woman to be interested in a man with no self-esteem and self-described mental health problems. Also, give some thought to your definition of pretty. All those girls are in a strong position in the mating economy.

Answer 6

well if this helps, it tortures me whenever i see a couple walking past me. my whole life, i havent found a date or got my first kiss or anything. ok well im 13, but i dont see myself doing that kind of stuff. i want my first kiss but i mean sometimes i think it need to take it slow. dude, if your 29, you still have time to get out there. just look for that girl and see if shes going to be the one, and screw her if she rejects you. at least you had the guts to ask a girl out, whileas i cant even get myself to talk to a guy. but really, do you need a pretty girl? some ugly girls can appear beautiful when you open them up =) good luck dude

Answer 7

u favor to inform her how u sense and ask her out, u can not at all comprehend if she likes u decrease back until eventually u make the leap, and if u get rejected then its her lost. if u do not ever ask some different person receives her.