I have a wonderful husband I want to state that first, So please tell me if you think that I should be hurt. I am a stay at home mom I have a 5 year old and a 1 month old. My husband left yesterday and our son brought me two cards one from him and one from his sister. I got up (i am sleeping in the living room so the baby doesnt disturb my husband durning the night) and went to my bedroom where there was another card on the bed from my husband... I was really excited because it was my birthday and I was really looking forward to what he had planned... He planned nothing. I made supper last night for him and then got to clean the kitchen. It was if nothing was special about yesterday. Should I be hurt?
2007-02-22 05:37:41 · 10 answers · asked by mama 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes i would be hurt, but maybe he has something planned for another day for u. just hang in there, talk to him about it, as it never does any good to keep it in as it will just cause resentment later on.
2007-02-22 05:42:45 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. (I'll be the first to admit that my husband spoils me rotten, so I can't relate to this first hand; however, I have family members / friends who have experienced this). Does he usually do something special for your birthday? Is money a problem right now? Granted, he could have at least made supper & cleaned up for you - but at least he showed you enough love to give you a card. Don't take it personally. You start off by saying that you have a wonderful husband, so he must treat you well. This really isn't worth being hurt over...and if it's the worst you ever have to face with him, you've got it made! Forgive him and move on.
2007-02-22 13:46:16 · answer #2 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he at least remembered it was your birthday so that is a start. I agree with the first woman I would still be hurt and I would talk to your husband about it. Let him know that you were hurt by the lack of planning for your day. As has been said maybe he has something planned for tomorrow night or something.
2007-02-22 13:47:52 · answer #3 · answered by freyja5683 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No when your a mom and wife that will always come first you shouldn't be upset! It's kinda how things are! You should be the one to make special plans for your birthday and pull you family into it! It's just another day to remind you that a year has gone by, you're getting old and save the money for the real birthdays that count and that's your kids!
2007-02-22 13:47:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart you sound like me, and hell yeah, you should be pissed. Why do these men think that they dont' have to do anything special for us? I use to go downstairs to the den when my husband came home from work to try and give him some peice and quiet after he came home from work, but i stopped doing it. Hes inconsiderate and so have I became. Forget him, my baby is 6 months, i'm tired of getting out of the bed and going to the den. They think they are more special than us. Honey, do you. Go out and buy something extravagant, who gives a **** if you can't really afford it. If he can't make the sacrifice to do something nice for you.....then make the sacrifice for him and he'll be the one that has to recoup the money anyway. Don't you just hate that a man is so jealous of a woman and her new child (rather its his or not) that he goes out of his way to make you feel miserable. Keep your head up, smile everychance you get and slowly but surely all that weight will disappear. Get glamorous on him, not for him...and watch how he gets his *** in line.
2007-02-22 14:10:56 · answer #5 · answered by toonice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time to find a man on the side that can take care of your needs. No need to get rid of the stable income, just add a little spice if you catch my drift. If your middle aged or older, try a young hottie. You can train them very easily and kick them to curb without any drama. If you get caught, tell him that he doesn't even care about you and use the Birthday as an arguing point. It's a guaranteed "get out of jail free card." Enjoy your self. You only live once! Good luck!
2007-02-22 14:05:26 · answer #6 · answered by moralityisrelative1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know you were hurt. I have the type of husband that doesn't even do cards to if I got a card - I would be happy
2007-02-22 15:32:12 · answer #7 · answered by Confussedhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open up your mouth and make sure he knows u were disappointed...men, unfortunately, are not mind readers, he will have no knowledge that u are upset unless u tell him
and for future birthdays...make sure u tell him...example...u want to be taken out for dinner at (name of restaurant) etc.
2007-02-22 13:43:37 · answer #8 · answered by sunbun 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is sweet he remembered. Some not all men need to be told what you want. It is just a fact of nature
2007-02-22 16:46:35 · answer #9 · answered by momof3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let your husband know how you feel. He can't fix what he doesn't know about.
2007-02-22 14:55:26 · answer #10 · answered by Moni B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋