Can a relationship survive an abortion?

Question

I am providing a link to my to a question I asked last night. I would like even more responses, so please check it out. Answer there or here, whatever you prefer.
Thank you for any opinions and answers.
http://ca.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070221205608AA8CBYx&r=w

Answer 1

Yes it can if the both of you try, but he would never forget that he lost a child. he might forgive you of what you did but he would always keep that inside of him. So if the both of yall really try your relationship could last for along time, yall can over come it. But you would never forget it

Answer 2

I'm so sorry that you feel this way. A pregnancy should be a happy event but sometimes it doesn't go that way.
You seem like a wonderful and caring person and I am positive that once you meet your new baby you will blown away by your love for him/her. I thought that when I got pg with my second I would never love him like the first and I was wrong.
I really don't think that a relationship could come back from something as important as one partner having an abortion while the other hates what has been done to his child.
The problem seems to be that you are trying to make a choice between him hating you and you hating him. That's a tough one.
I think you should think about which one you could live with, the knowledge that he hates you for doing something you know in your heart is wrong or you hating him (short term- while pregnant) for putting you in a position you don't want to be in right now.
Please remember before you do anything drastic that jobs and situations change, money is the cheapest thing in the world, but abortion is forever.
If the only thing stopping you from adoption is your other child, tell them that mommy is giving the gift of a baby to a family that can't have one on their own.
Hugs to you and I wish you luck.

Answer 3

Well, it is your body and your choice alone, but he doesn't have to like it. If you talk it out with him and he is still upset that you are aborting, chances are it will do lasting damage to the relationship, since he probably sees this as another life and another child...and that's something he likes. He will feel like you're taking the chance to be a father again away from him, and he may resent you for that. It depend on how strong your relationship is...he may turn around and support you because you're in a difficult situation, or he may have a growing resentment and anger for the abortion. I really can't say, dear, I'm just explaining why it may or may not last. In the end only he can make that call. I know my boyfriend would leave me if I aborted the child I'm pregnant with now, not because he doesn't love me but because he also loves what we made together.

Answer 4

Given that you stated that the two of you would have differing opinions about whether to terminate or not leads me to believe your relationship could be left on very rocky ground if you were to terminate.

I believe the answer from 'Just The Facts' on your original question page is the best answer, with a lot of information to look at.

Having already had one child with this man, did you not ever discuss having more children, or what you would plan to do in the even of another pregnancy? If you didn't, that was irresponsible of both of you.

As far as money being a determining factor, there will always be people with more money than you and people with less money than you who find a way to raise two children. I know someone about to give birth to number seven and she and her husband only bring in about $24,000 per year. You may have to get more creative to make it work, but it can be done.

Answer 5

In the end I doubt it.

Answer 6

Adoption is the answer. He will hate your forever if you murder his child.