What to do about Kids Beating up my kids?

Question

My 13 year old daughter was jumped by a 16 year old. I'm furious, and the girl's mother is absolutely no help, She continues to threaten my daughter again, I'm not sure what to do??? I called the cops the 1st time and they took the girls to juvenile for about 2 hours ( the cops know her well )

My Daughter is scared to death of this girl. She is 2xs the size of my daughter, She is in High School, my daughter is a 7th grader

My daughter is afraid to even step foot out of the house now. This girl only lives 2 houses down from us

This Girl Goes to the high school, my daughter is a 7th grader, but it happened at my daughters bus stop right when she got of the bus

Answer 1

Self defense training.

Answer 2

Weapons are not the answer but i think every girl tht age should have mase for protection especially when shes by herself If you want to go about things the legal way if it happens again take pictures of your childs bruises take her to the hospital where it is put on file and then start the sewing process. Look at my avatar. I look exacty like my avatar not a even a buck 115 soak and wet but do you ever think i lost a fight. get your daughter into Tae Kwon Do thats what i took. She will learn self defense out of this world. To know that you have the power in your bare hands to snap a person neck in 5 different places and the self discipline not to is just the confidence your daughter needs. The cops wont help and the last thing you want is your child hiding in her bathroom slittering her wrists or thinking about suicide because of low self esteem and fear of another human being. Please take into consideration everything that ive said. I wish you luck

Answer 3

That's a tough one...do they go to school together? I would alert the principal - school administrators needs to take bullying very serious these days. I would continue to call the cops if your daughter is threatened. Where is she being jumped? On the way home from school? Is there a way she could take the bus or be picked up to avoid being alone with the 16 y/o?

Answer 4

Some of the things you can do is make sure your daughter has someone to walk with to and from school and to places for a little while untill this stops. You can also have her take self defense classes at a community college or YMCA or something. If your daughter was jumped going to school or from or on a regular rout she walks you can call and ask a police officer if he could park out there and keep a watch on that area. When I was at school for a night class and had to wait 30 minutes for a ride the security officer let me stay with him untill my ride got there so that nothing happend. They should be happy to help.

Answer 5

I would take her to self-defence classes. Where does she see your daughter that she is able to continue threatening her? I would remove my daughter from any contact with this girl for her own well-being - You said the girl attacked her at the bus stop, could your daughter get to school some other way besides the bus? What a shame that her Mother isn't any help.

Answer 6

File a police report. If this is taking place at school, file the police report and then notify the school--it will force the school to take action. If nothing else, you have to step up and be your child's advocate, even if that means pressing charges against the bully and making sure they stick. At some point, that girl has to learn that her actions have consequences and if she's not learning it at home then the law's going to have to teach her.

Good luck! It's never easy to walk that fine line between protectiveness and overprotectiveness, but if this girl continues to threaten and harrass your daughter, do whatever you legally can to make sure she stops.

Answer 7

Sign her up for self defense training. Tae Kwon Do is a good one, plus some police departments do some self-defense training courses, too.
Also, get her a can of mace or pepper spray so she can spray and run away.
Talk to the school, the cops again, the parents again, and a lawyer if need be. This kid is harassing your daughter and you have grounds for lawsuit if it continues.

Answer 8

continue to call the cops. when this happens again, you need to press charges against the 16 year old because they are otherwise going to just get out in a couple of hours again. by pressing charges, you are going to make the, stay in jail. since the person that is attacking you child is a minor then i would see what i could do about pressing charges against the mom as well. this is the best way for you to go. hope it helps. good luck.

Answer 9

The worst thing you could have done was call the cops on her. Now I am sure that your daughter is going to get picked on even worse. You need to teach your daughter how to defend herself. Get someone to teach your daughter how to fight a little. Then maybe your daughter will punch her square in the nose and beat her to the ground. The girl will never mess with her again and your daughter will never allow something like this to happen again. She needs to taught confidence. I know it is probably against all that you believe, but this is really the only way is this particular circumstance.

Answer 10

a restraining order would make it where That girl cant come within so many feet of your child and if she does charges probably can be taken out on her. What nerve of a 16 year old messing with a 7th grader.

Answer 11

This situation sucks! I never got jumped but there were girls that wanted to jump me. I fought back a couple times, after that they stopped harassing me, but vandalized my house. There's not really any solution to the problem, except, I almost transfered schools. My brother was the one always getting jumped but it was because he was a little punk. I'm not accusing your daughter of anything, I don't know her, but is there any way that she could be provoking it??? If not, honestly, she needs to toughen up and whoop some ***! They'll leave her alone!