Did you get married? Did it work out?
Or are you still in that unsure place?
Is it you, or him that you are uncertain of?
2007-02-22 05:23:48 · 6 answers · asked by WhoamI 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No dread... just overwhelming happiness!
Our first born daughter who was a couple of weeks old at the time was wearing my ring under her mitten and he asked me to take off her mitten and there was my ring! That's when he proposed.
We married 6 months later (June 2004) and are still married to this day. Sure, we have our ups and downs but we're happy.
2007-02-22 05:30:51 · answer #1 · answered by princess526_2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling of dread well. I've had it both times. The first time, I ignored it. (In my defense, I was 19 years old) We were married for 2 years and it ended very badly. The second time, I was older and wiser (29) and said no. We broke up after that, but I realized it was the way it was supposed to happen. That feeling of dread is a warning, a red flag, and if you ignore it, you may end up in an unhappy marriage.
2007-02-22 06:18:10 · answer #2 · answered by angelsong76 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Howdy, not a lot of dread at the proposal, but certainly it grew during the engagement. We're married now, and I feel locked up for life :( I've thought about leaving, but can't - she needs me too much. The uncertainty is on my part - thus far she hasn't proved that she can fulfill my needs because she can't even fulfill her own (no, I'm not talking sexually). Wish I would have listened to that little voice in my head back when we were engaged....
2007-02-22 05:45:35 · answer #3 · answered by once upon a time 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dread is a definite red flag. Be honest with yourself and him. Otherwise you hurt yourself, him, family, children (if you have any), etc. You probably need to communicate more with each other, and if you're living together, I'd suggest you'd move out. If you're sleeping together, well, for guys that's often enough to get married. Cause for some guys marriage = easy sex, no need for romance, no need for laundry, no need to cook, etc. Marriage needs excellent communication, balance, respect, joy from each other, and of course love (not dread!)
2007-02-22 06:09:34 · answer #4 · answered by revsoccer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i felt dread, but unfortunately did not listen to my intuition and married him anyway, and was always uncertain, always felt unsafe, finally got a divorce, and moved on. the dread u are feeling is a warning for u, to wait, or not to marry him.
2007-02-22 05:38:48 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all. I was thrilled to death! We got married and have been happy for 11 years now.
2007-02-22 05:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋