Just a general question. Do you think women feel more secure in the marriage if they feel like they have control over their husbands or does it make you feel better if you can’t seem to get a handle on your husband? Is he more attractive to you if you can’t seem to pin him down all the time and do you argue a lot more with him when you feel like you don’t have control over things? I know marriage shouldn’t be about control but does it feel better if you know you have it or your husband has it? It’s just a fact about relationships that one or the other party ends up having more control. Most of the time it’s the men but now a days women seem to be taking the lead more and more and liking it.
2007-02-22 05:05:45 · 12 answers · asked by golf4everdude 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Every woman love's security but not in that way, our way of security are, 1- Konwing that our man love's us. 2 knowing that he's not playing us. 3 Where romance is concern we want it all and the list goes on. I must say however that you have some women like that. I hope your not afraid Lol
2007-02-22 05:14:16 · answer #1 · answered by sexinessloveness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman likes a man that can take the lead. If he's incapable of that task...then thats what forces the woman to take the lead. It's not about control. It's about doing what needs to be done in a reasonable time frame. Men like to procrastinate alot. Women do to, but not as much as men. I on the other hand am a very independant, strong woman. When I want something done, I want it done. Point blank. When a man wants sex from his wife, he wants sex right then and there. Am I right? So.......you can call it what you want. It really doesn't matter because a man or a woman can only control what you allow them to control anyway. In terms of a woman feeling secure if she has control...a woman only fells as secure as she really is, regardless what the situation may be. Like I said, It's the man that sometimes force a woman into the control mode when he can't seem to get his **** together. Which in terms, make the man less attractive then what he already was in the first place. Oh yeah, I like answering your questions because you act/sound like my husband.
2007-02-22 13:52:33 · answer #2 · answered by toonice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a relationship...when a person exerts (or tries to exert) control over another it is probably the controller has very poor self esteem. They don't have sufficient control over their "internal" life so they try and control their "external" environment to make them feel comfortable. But then that makes the other subserviant to the other...if you can live with this then I guess that you're okay...but typically most can not (which is why you're questioning this)...as the controller's life becomes more out of control they will exert more and more control over those things that they CAN control to maintain the balance...it usually doesn't get better unless you can find a good counselor and work with this individual....but for these people control is everything and thier whole life falls apart at the slightest mention of loos of control,
CHeck out the folowing website...It can answer your question better than I can....specifically read the chapter on "Self-Esteem"
http://www.condomsbrasandstraightjackets.com/
Good luck...you're gonna need it!
2007-02-22 13:50:32 · answer #3 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're damn right they do! There is no question. If you give an inch of control, better get ready to hand over the mile. However subtle, they will end up with your strings in their hand, and you might not even know when they ARE controlling you. Some men are just stupid like that. Can't count how many good friends that have become domestic slaves. The saying that goes, "What's hers is hers and what's yours is hers.", is very true.
2007-02-22 13:14:11 · answer #4 · answered by joshnya68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My experience is that if the wife thinks she controls the husband she considers him a wimp...if the wife thinks the husband controls things or at least doesn't allow himslef to be controlled, the wife thinks he's an as5hole.... in either case she will never be happy.
2007-02-22 13:43:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women like to control everything
2007-02-22 13:09:07 · answer #6 · answered by delmonticoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,they do all time.But in some marriages is working,in others never.Men and women like to control,manipulate one another,all time.sometimes this extreme control finished in cheating,or divorce;or in fighting every single day.Good question.
2007-02-22 13:48:31 · answer #7 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not have control over my husband.. It would make me feel like his mother!!
But I guess if you are insecure having control is good..
For me its to much work.
2007-02-22 13:11:27 · answer #8 · answered by abadcv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that really depends on the situation. Some things are best to be contolled by each sex, life money, house and other stuff. It's basically about understanding eachother.
2007-02-22 13:14:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes a woman just HAS to control her husband, otherwise the house and the marriage would be turned upside down......
2007-02-22 13:18:42 · answer #10 · answered by Virgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋