I am just not sure what to do with this situation. My Husband is a very good man to me and our children. You really could not ask for a better guy. I have known him for 16 years but in the last few he has become really sensitve and taking things the wrong way. Basically went from being optimistic to pessimistic. He is only 28, but mid-life did cross my mind. Sensitive example is he had just eaten dinner (about one hour had lapsed) and I had not eaten yet, so i did not ask if he was hungry, because he had just eaten a huge meal. So i went in to get something to eat and he got upset because i did not ask him. He will get up and get food for himself all the time without asking me if i am hungry. Now, i do not get upset and start a fight over that, but he will. He is super-sensitive over little things like that all the time. If i know he is hungry, or has not eaten i ALWAYS ask. I would never make for me & not him. It is hurting our relationship a bit when he wants to fight like that
2007-02-22 05:05:43 · 6 answers · asked by Vita 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Gee vio - you are not nice lol. First we did not eat together because i was busy packaging 23 packages to hurry and get them out the door because the delivery (fedex) was picking up early. I own my own business, so must make sacrifices from time to time in order to make money while my husband is off work.
2007-02-22 05:16:37 · update #1
Joan - wonderful answer thank you!
Virgo - he is a cancer LOL
And rick, he never leaves, or i would think that too lol.
2007-02-22 05:18:17 · update #2
WOW david. That is awesome. So basically when he acts that was be nurturing and it will stop because then he will be reassured. That makes a lot of sense and i will be trying that today when he gets up. THANK YOU!!!
2007-02-22 05:29:13 · update #3
His behavior is based on his insecurity regarding your relationship. He is "looking for warning signs" that you do not feel the way that you used to feel about him. I suspect that he thinks you are unhappy and that you might be contemplating leaving him. Even though, his behavior makes the relationship worse rather better he feels compelled to behave this because it is a defense mechanism. I know this seems like a bit much to swallow but I have been the insecure man in a relationship before and it brought this side of my character that I did not like nor could I control. If you love him, then you must find a way to reassure him of your love and of your commitment to the relationship. If you can do these things without calling attention to the fact that you are trying to be reassuring it will work twice as fast and much more effectively.
2007-02-22 05:25:28 · answer #1 · answered by David 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He's 100% overly dramatic. What's worse than overly dramatic is unfair. He seems to be a lethal combo.
Demanding someone do something for you & not doing the same in a similar situation is highly unfair. You need to talk to him. Let him know you're considering a huge change unless something changes within the relationship. Though, most importantly, you must stick to what you say. If you give an ultimatum, stand by it. Otherwise nothing will change. Good luck.
2007-02-22 05:14:00 · answer #2 · answered by Joan McBitch 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
there is something that is bothering him about the relationship. it could be you, the kids, his job, your job, whatever, but instead of talking to you about it he kept it bottled up. and now its coming out in other ways. i went through something similar with my wife, i felt that i could always says what i felt, so i didn't say anything. well over time i started to nitpik or argue, over stupid things. my resentment, of not telling her, was coming out in other ways.
you will need to talk to him, and maybe even go to therapy. he has so much bottled up that he proabably doesn't know how to get it out. one day i just unloaded on my wife, and honestly, it hurt our relationship, but we are building it up again, slowly.
good luck.
2007-02-22 05:40:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you figure he'll die at age 56, you can dismiss this all as a "midlife" issue. Maybe he's tired of not sharing a family meal with his wife. Why can't you just eat with him? Don't you know how to treat a man? Maybe he feels marriage isn't what he hoped it would be.
2007-02-22 05:12:00 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋
He is cheating on you, and creating things that you've done wrong to ease his guilt and excuse himself in his mind.
Trust me on this.
2007-02-22 05:15:45 · answer #5 · answered by Ricky T 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Good grief, is he a scorpio, cancer, or pisces?
2007-02-22 05:15:30 · answer #6 · answered by Virgo 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋