Okay my bf and i have been together a little over 6 yrs we have a 3 yr old son together.Currently we live in a town house its a 3 bed room 2 .5 bathroom home it was perfect when we first moved in before we had my son but now we a running out of space.I am an accountant and my bf owns a business. He inherited it from his uncle its an auto body shop.So money wise we do okay its just New Jersey taxes are hitting us hard.The third bedroom is an office for when i work from home or some my bf's work.Family room/dinning room/ kitchen are really all one open space.It has my sons toys all over the place since their is little storage for them.We also have a treadmill and speed bike in addition to the standard things in the same area.Plus 3 dogs and a cat we got from his sister!Last time i brought it up he wanted to wait and save more money?
2007-02-22 04:58:39 · 13 answers · asked by Leana D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I hate seeing the cluter!Its driving me crazy!
2007-02-22 05:02:53 · update #1
We have enough money to cover half a down payment on the house i want but he wants to pay in full on the spot so we dont have a morgage.
2007-02-22 05:06:47 · update #2
Get rid of some of the toys and junk you don't need. Then rearrange and save money.
2007-02-22 05:01:20 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have a home and a child and hes only your "boyfriend" - your terminology is correct - BOYfriend because a MAN would have married you before getting you pregnant. You sound like a selfish immature witch,too - you have a child and a home and a business but you can't commit to a marriage nor to keeping a tidy HOME. There's a little thing called a SCHEDULE - and your home is just as important as your work. The two of you have to sit down and talk about your life and your goals. Your "bf" sounds more mature in one respect as he doesn't want to make a huge financial commitment. Hey! Sounds like he doesn't like ANY commitment! Ditch the treadmill and speed bike and take your child out for WALKS in the fresh air. Use the space to use stacking plastic cubes and teach your child to put away his toys - 3 is a perfect time to teach him good habits. Find good homes for two of your dogs. Your house is cluttered, your life is cluttered and your priorities are a mess! Probably not what you want to hear but you DID ask for advice.
2007-02-22 13:10:46 · answer #2 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"It has my sons toys all over the place since their is little storage for them" so purchase storage, get rid of half of the pets as well as other "things" that take up space such as the treadmill, if you've got so much money you can join a gym put the bike outside, there are covers specially made for bikes if you don't have a fenced back yard lock the bike up near the townhouse or if you have a garage store the bike in there, the easiest way to do this is to get large hooks and suspend the bike from the ceiling of the garage.
2007-02-22 13:16:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm tough situation!! My hubby and I had a very similar situation. Our first home that we bought was a cheap Victorian house that needed a lot of work, the mortgage and taxes were cheap. But unfortunately the neighborhood was terrible and the yard was small. My children had no place to play in the yard and I didn`t want them wandering around on their own. My hubby thought that we`d still be better off there financially, he was thinking of financial gain. I told him that it`s time to upgrade to a better neighborhood, we needed more space, and a house that wasn`t always needing something. I gave him a time limit. I told him, you have a year to get your work and money in order, after that we`re moving. I had to also realize that I had to cut my spending down in certain ways so that the money can be directed to the new house, ( mortgage, and taxes). So we ended up selling the house, ( for $50,000 more than we paid for it), and we moved. Oh, and tell your husband the profit he`ll be making!! That always helps, men want to see financial gain for what they are doing. We bought a house with four acres and the house is over 3,000 sq feet. But there are sacrifices to be made!!!
2007-02-22 13:11:59 · answer #4 · answered by lost2day 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a man that has a head on his shoulders and wants to have things paid for instead of in debt. Get rid of the clutter. if you are not using the treadmill , and the speed bike , put them in a shed outside till you get your home. Unclutter your house. Get rid of some of the animals. Then save like crazy and get the home you always wanted . It will be sooner than you think . It is a whole lot better than being in debt up to your ears and paying all that interest.
2007-02-22 13:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There will never be a perfect time for this. You sometimes just have to jump in with both feet.
If you both have businesses and money is not the issue, you need to convince him that space is the issue.
There is a great way to do this. You have to see the space you want and keep putting yourself in it and get excited about it. Don't rag on him in negative speech, take a positive approach to the whole thing and talk about great it would be, how things would be so wonderful. etc...etc... Do not let negative stuff enter into your head..... Want it so badly that it seems real and don't let go...
He will come around, cause alot of positive usually rubs off very quickly and leaves them terribly defenceless.....
give it a shot, nothing to loose here...
2007-02-22 13:13:50 · answer #6 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Shop around a little bit, find something you like that is within your price range and then show it to your bf. He will probably say he's not interested, which will give you some indication as to why. Keep in mind that moving itself can be expensive, so it may not just be the cost of the new home, but couple that with moving expenses and other expenses as well.
Listen to his point of view and logically (not emotionally) reason with him, and I'm sure you two will come up with a solution.
2007-02-22 13:03:48 · answer #7 · answered by AirborneSaint 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Saving money is a great idea. Maybe you two should sit down and plan out a way to save money as well as how much you want to save. This way you both know that you are working on the future together and you know exactly where you are going. Also check out storage ideas for things like toys and excersize equipment, there are TONS of ideas out there to hide that stuff pretty well. Good luck
2007-02-22 13:02:09 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Approach him with a plan already in place. Look for places to rent, find something nice in your price range in a nice location. Write out the pros and cons of moving to that place. Have it laid out as a win-win situation. He may be more apt to consider it once the details are in place and it has gone from being a vague idea to an actual plan.
2007-02-22 13:05:55 · answer #9 · answered by Nasubi 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
sounds like he is a level-headed guy.....3 of you living in a 3 bedroom house with 2.5 bathrooms is perfect; I suggest clean sweeping and getting rid of the clutter; organize .....trust me when I say a bigger house just means more stuff it will become too small too
2007-02-22 13:02:35 · answer #10 · answered by abc 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋