im a 21 year old female with an embarrasing problem i was raped a few years ago and now every time i try to have sex i cant seem to let the penis inside i dont know if its a pyscological thing or a health problem i dont feel like im tensing or anything but do you think i could be doing it without knowing i really need help i just want a normal sex life ive lost partners because of this i know now that they was shallow but i just want a normal relationship PLEASE HELP!!!!!
2007-02-22 04:55:13 · 6 answers · asked by purplecats 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
You need to go to a doctor or therapist. It sounds like you have vagismus, an involuntary contraction of the muscles surrounding the vagina. It isn't all that uncommon. A doctor or therapist will be able to get you help, and improve your life.
Good luck!
2007-02-22 05:37:28 · answer #1 · answered by Sabrina H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to keep an open mind and relax. You might not even realize you are tensing up when you really are. It will probably take awhile because your body remembers what happened, as far as the shallow partner's, they only have one thing on thier mind, getting it in there and doing it and then letting you deal with it by yourself. you could maybe try telling your partners what is wrong some people may leave but if you keep trying u will find a person who understands and they will help you through your troubles remember there is someone out there for everyone. no matter what has happened befor in your life. hope u find that person thanks for reading
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2007-02-23 06:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by lk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to keep an open mind and relax. You might not even realize you are tensing up when you really are. I'm 22 and my wife had an incident a long time ago and I helped her through it. Just consentrate on the person you are with and just let yourself go. It will probably take awhile because your body remembers what happened, as far as the shallow partner's, they only have one thing on thier mind, getting it in there and doing it and then letting you deal with it by yourself. They need to be patient with you and help you through it as I had to help my wife. She was worried about it and that I wouldn't want to be with her because it hurt and cause of size. I told her that I would help her through it. I hope this has helped you hun,
2007-02-22 05:35:59 · answer #3 · answered by Ringo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear. I'm so sorry to hear about what happened to you. It is absolutely possible that mental trauma manifest themselves as physical responses. I don't quite know what you mean "can't seem to let the penis inside." Is it that he cannot penetrate and push into you when you are open to him? Or do you mean that you can't let yourself to be penetrated even though you think that want him to? If you haven't done so already, talk to psychologists or counselors to help you through the trauma and get some closure so you can move on. Also speak to your ob/gyn to get check out if there are actually any physical abnormalities that might be obstructing a penis from entry.
Sorry I don't have any better advice. I hope you get your life back soon. Hang in there.
2007-02-22 05:37:42 · answer #4 · answered by Elisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is purely psychological..Unconsciously you dont want the penis to go inside you because of your traumatic experience.It's too much anxiety that it's expressed with that certain way..You should see a psychologist.I think that it wont take too much time before you get over this problem..The therapist will certainly help you..I assure you!
2007-02-22 09:13:38 · answer #5 · answered by MS.. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sory to hear about your rape and the best way is go seek counseling at your nearest rape crisis center and they will help you through it and some time to heal will work and don't rush into thing.if you find a guy that you might want to have a sexual relationship with tell him what you're going through a good portion of the time they will understand.
2007-02-22 07:07:28 · answer #6 · answered by gregg98133 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋