I am 21 and currently live with my boyfriend from whom I have a daughter. I never planned on living with him but when I got pregnant we decided that it would be the best for our daughter. Now she is one and our relationship is still very sour. I have always been a sexual person(5 to 10 a day)and he does not satisfied me but I dont want to leave him for the sake of our daughter. I have reached to out my X boyfriend( who is currently engaged and lives her) and offered him a no strings attached sexual relationship he always satisfied my needs. Now my question is should I go ahead and take the Leap?
2007-02-22 04:54:31 · 23 answers · asked by Lady_Luck 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When your current boyfriend finds out and calls you an unstable freak and takes your daughter from you, you might regret this idea.
Make it work with the one your with or end it. This is your only option. You have a daughter now, do you want to destroy someone else's family to who might have children? Think of your daughter and grow up.
2007-02-22 04:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by Virgo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. Either work out the relationship with your boyfriend or end it all together.
Reaching out to an ex-boyfriend who's engaged and living with his fiancee is just a disaster waiting to happen. Your problems with your boyfriend go beyond sex, so turning to your ex isn't going to do anything but create drama. Don't kid yourself and think that you won't be found out, because you will.
The best thing you can do is end the relationship with your boyfriend, agree to have a civil relationship for the sake of your daughter and get your own place. Leave the ex-boyfriend alone and avoid all that drama. Finally, I can appreciate your sexual nature but you need to find a way to balance that with a meaningful relationship. Good luck to you.
2007-02-22 13:12:10 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nope. You know that it will just cause more problems. Breaking up two relationships in one move- not a good idea. Why not talk with your current boyfriend first? If he's not worth talking to, then you need to dump him and stop using him. That's what your'e essentially doing in one way or another. If you feel good about sleeping with an engaged man, then go for it. You will repeat the same mistakes over and over until you learn from them and change your ways. Also, 5-10 times a day?? What else do you do all day long. Get a new hobby!! Quit being so selfish.
2007-02-22 13:06:21 · answer #3 · answered by punchy333 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take this leap and you will end up plunging head first into the deepest hole you've ever seen.
You and your daughter's father are not meant to be, anything else that you do in order to go around his back is just denial, sooner or later you will break up, kid or no kid.
You can't cure alcoholism with drug addiction, meaning, you are now just avoiding the obvious issue, and in the process ruining someones else life and relationship. Leave your ex alone, he is engaged, and it can just lead to complications you do not need right now. Understand that your daughter does not need to grow up with two people that do not get along, its' better for you to be a single mother with financial support from your boyfriend, I am sure he will still want to be in his daughter's life.
Eventually, you will find someone that is compatible with you, but I strongly suggest you focus on your child as much as you can, make this transition smoothly so all involved can live a happy deceit free life.
2007-02-22 13:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only if you are willing to face the consequences of being caught, or possibly breaking up your x's engagement. Cheating will affect not only you but the people around you. I would say if your relationship is heading this direction that staying with your boyfriend, just for the sake of your daughter is not the answer. Someday your daughter will be old enough to realize that the relationship between you and her dad is not good. Do you want her to think that it is her fault? or that you have to settle in relationships? You want her to have a healthy view of a healthy relationship and parents set the example. I would consider breaking it off with the boyfriend and I would not ruin your x's relationship.
Hope it all works out for you.
2007-02-22 13:01:39 · answer #5 · answered by Jill R 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do us all a favor and don't have any more sex. You need to grow up. Think of your child. If you didn't love this man in the first place you had no right having sex in the first place and to settle for him? Lucky guy!!! NOT!!! What's best for your daughter? You don't have a clue!! WHat's best for your daughter is for her mother to get her head screwed on straight, keep her pants on and make something out of herself besides somebody's hooker. Wake up baby, it's not all about sex! Love does not equal sex. My guess is you were sexually abused/molested as a child and haven't gotten over it yet. You are not doing anything for your child, you are making selfish descisions for YOU. There is not one person here on this earth who will ever be able to satisfy you and you have no idea how to be a partner to somebody or a mother. Seriously get some counseling before you screw up your kids life the same way you are trying to screw yours up. Sorry to be so harsh but you don't realize just how selfish you sound, god forbid you bring another child into this world the way you are right now. Newsflash, everyone is a sexual being...but that isn't what's most important in life, hope you figure that out someday soon. How about you take that leap into a counselors office??
2007-02-22 13:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by dixi 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
5 to 10 a day ... are you a woman or a dog in heat? This is excessive and I suspect anybody with a life couldn't satisfy you. You say your boyfreind doesn't satisfy you, if this is the case, why did you get pregnant and carry on a relationship with him? Now you plan on messing with your daughters security and future. You need to grow up and make an adult decision ... either make it work or get out but in any case, leave your ex alone.
2007-02-22 13:45:32 · answer #7 · answered by me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
With this kind of sexual appetite, you really must get a good vibrator. There is nothing wrong with that. If you don't have a good relationship with your daughters Dad, then leave him and look for someone that you can be comfortable with.
Your Ex..made his life and is about to be married, you SHOULD leave him alone. Sex might be a big part of life but not everything, other people live in this world that your actions can hurt them very much.
2007-02-22 13:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by Ariana 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You want to ruin your life, your boyfriends life, your ex boyfriend's life , his girlfriends life and your daughters because you are horney? Is that being self centered? If you two want to get together then break it off, but don't do the lying and cheating. What an example to set for your daughter. She does not want a liar and a cheat for a mother. Grow up and learn what being a parent is all about . It is teaching your child right and wrong. Even if means you have to give up things. Do the right thing .
2007-02-22 13:23:48 · answer #9 · answered by springer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO> It is WRONG to cheat on someone regardless of the situation. Imagine this: Someday (probably NOT far away) you meet this amazing guy when you are SINGLE. HE treats you like a princess and satisfies all of your needs. Then the day comes where he asks you if you have ever cheated before, and you tell him about the babys daddy and your x. HE DUMPS YOU.... Wanna know why? Because GOOD GUYS dont date girls who have ever cheated.... WHY?? Because ONCE A CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER. So dont do it, PLUS kharma can be a real bitc* too... IF you do this with him while he is with her, and you are with him.... Something TERRIBLE will come back around in your not so far off future and it will tear you up. TRUST ME. Good luck
2007-02-22 12:59:40 · answer #10 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋