My bf & bff totally hate each other. They liked each other at first, then I don't know what happened! They started hating each other a couple of months ago and it just got worse: I all ready had plans to go with my boyfriend, but my best freind came and asked if I would go to the library w/ her. It was only going to take an hour and my boyfriend wasn't going to be there for a little while yet...but he didn't like that idea. He got mad and as I was trying to explain to him on the phone, I think she got fed up with it and she said that she would just go. She called me and said that until I straighten things out w/ him getting mad & all, she was just going to stay away. I sent her an "I'm sorry" card, but I still haven't heard from her. I'm afraid that she hates me now. My boyfriend has tried to comfort me, but I am just worried. They both tell me that I shouldn't let the other push me around. I love them both and I don't want to lose either of them. They both mean a lot to me.
2007-02-22 04:50:10 · 20 answers · asked by Faith P 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
hmm.. well if the bff has pushed you away and you havent heard from her, it looks like maybe she isnt really your bff. my rule is to focus on the people in my life who are jumping up and down to be here. It sounds like your bf is doing that. Im sure this hurts but people get to make their own decisions and you love him, she decided to leave. Good Luck.
2007-02-22 04:55:13 · answer #1 · answered by Surrendered 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm, first off you might want look into to them too liking each other more than you think. That sounds like, they have some sexual tension built up somewhere for each other. But if not that, then you are going to have to sit both of them down and make it clear that your not going to get rid of either one of them. They may not like each, but they need to deal with the fact that they are both a part of your life. I don't like my bestfriends boyfriend, infact I hate him because he mistreats her.......but she has too make her own decisions and if she love him then I'm all for it, regardless of my feelings towards him. So you tell them that they can hate each other but they will respect you and each other when all three of you are together. Oh, and don't let either one push you around!!!! Friends are forever!Just see they will get togather.don't worry be happy now!
2007-02-22 05:05:10 · answer #2 · answered by dipika 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to realize that you can only do so much to help in this situation. Your boyfriend and your best friend need to sit down and talk. Get all there concerns out in the open. It is so unfair to get you in the middle of this. They should leave the conversation respecting each others opinion and go on with there lives. They are acting very immature,and it is just a shame you are in the middle of it.
2007-02-22 05:00:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm, first off you mmight wanna look into to them too liking each other more than you think. That sounds like, they have some sexual tension built up somewhere for each other. But if not that, then you are going to have to sit both of them down and make it clear that your not going to get rid of either one of them. They may not like each, but they need to deal with the fact that they are both a part of your life. I don't like my bestfriends boyfriend, infact I hate him because he mistreats her.......but she has too make her own decisions and if she love him then I'm all for it, regardless of my feelings towards him. So you tell them that they can hate each other but they will respect you and each other when all three of you are together. Oh, and don't let either one push you around!!!!
2007-02-22 04:57:54 · answer #4 · answered by Love Is Fun...But Not Required!! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you let them both solve their own problem and keep you out of. Tell your bff is she was a true friend she won't act like that towards you she if she doesn't like your boyfriend. Tell them each the truth and to grow up and straighten up their way they are acting.
2007-02-22 04:54:55 · answer #5 · answered by Bubblez ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There jealous of each other. Just talk to them both at the same time and make them understand that you shouldn't have to choose between a bff and a bf
2007-02-22 04:53:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off which one do you sleep with ??? Your boyfriend or your girlfriend.
Girlfriends should always take the back seat, your boyfriend comes before her, she don't like it tough, its your life not hers.
She maybe jealous cause you have someone who care for you and she doesn't. Tell her to go get a life and leave yours alone.
If he doesn't like her there must be a good reason, why not sit down with him and find out what the problem is.
You sound like you would rather be with her then him. If you love him then she will just have to come to terms with that [her problem].
It is one thing to have friends but when they start coming between my males friends and me I draw the line. Friendship is good BUT don't try running my life because you are having problems dealing with yours...
2007-02-22 05:02:06 · answer #7 · answered by Angell 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
find out why they hate each other first, then make a appointment for a place where they can meet (you have to come along too)then start to discuss a topic that interest both of them. Hope that helps
2007-02-22 04:57:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you have been with your bf for a long time then you should stick with him. I mean your friend is the one who walked away on you, and chances are that if you just ignore her that she will become too jealous and come back to you (if she is really that great of a friend).
2007-02-22 05:07:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mabe they had did something that they was surpose to not do like kiss and and ur boyfriend said dont tell her because she is going to get mad so the best thing to do was for them to hate each other u said that they was friends and know they hate each other it could of happen u never no.
2007-02-22 04:59:59 · answer #10 · answered by hot_sexy_tenisha 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋