How do I overcome the 'boys only' divide in my boyfriends group of friends. I have been with my boyfriend nearly 2 years. Their girlfriends don't seem bothered about joining in but I'm used to mixed groups. I managed to join in on comedy nights but I think this resulted in the boys feeling like they had to invite their partners which did kind of change atmosphere. Now they have decided to have 'boys only' nights which will clash with comedy night and also seems to be the plan for most meetings. How do I remove this boys only stamp without alienating myself! It's not that I will always want to join in but it bugs me when I'm openly excluded. This is 2007 right? It's obvious they want to get away from their partners & have secrets but me and my partner very open. I'm not the sort of girl who likes apologies if someone swears because 'a lady is present'! I think that sort of thing just highlights unecessarily that I am different sex.
2007-02-22 04:48:59 · 7 answers · asked by cinders 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
My partner and I have the same sort of thing apart from now I mostly go along with him.
If they phoned to ask him out for the night he would just say its OK for me to come along, and they say fine.
Now its just the normal thing for me or one of the other girls to be there.
But sometimes its good to go out separately, meet up with the girls.
2007-02-22 04:53:38 · answer #1 · answered by scragette2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give your boyfriend a break. Just because he wants a night out with his friends doesn't mean he cares for you less. Even though it doesn't bother you about the "swearing" some guys are respectful and check themselves anyway when a "lady" is present, so it does kind of inhibit their having a good time. By the way, You are a different sex.
2007-02-22 04:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by ginger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Separate activities are seen as healthy, as well as mixed group. Let's face it, males and females do both act differently in the company of the opposite sex.
It isn't so much secrets, but being free to act the prats they would die if you knew they could be. I know, I am a male.
Equally, I would not want to be the only bloke with a group of women hell bent to do girl things. I love being the only male in a group of otherwise women, but only when invited and thus appreciated.
My tuppence worth,
--That Cheeky Lad
2007-02-22 05:18:58 · answer #3 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not give the fellows a night to themselves? Leave them alone. Guys enjoy the company of other guys from time to time, just to relax and take it easy.
Can you tell me in all honesty that you don't from time to time enjoy situations in which there are no males present?
2007-02-22 05:34:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all relationships, we have to pick our battles. This is one that you should not fight other wise you come off as clingy and possessive.
He's probably known these guys longer than any relationship he's had and you have to respect that.
2007-02-22 04:59:47 · answer #5 · answered by germaine_87313 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. He needs to get together with his buddies sometimes. You should have a girls night out as well.
2007-02-22 04:52:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a theripist.
2007-02-22 04:53:13 · answer #7 · answered by Jason 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋