How would you deal with or reconcile this person as your best friend's wife?

Question

Have you ever known this woman:

1)loud
2)obnoxious
3)morbidly fat
4)dope smoker
5)cigarette smoker
6)with a good heart,but
7)endlessly cantankerous and
8)dictatorial
9)Transfers Blame continously
10)Uses Foul language

Oh, and never held a real job in her life.

Take care

For those who believed I had children, I do not. She is the mom...the mom of 4 young boys...they are good boys,mostly, but, there are many discipline issues. Dad says he acts more like a pal than a father. Oh, and her weight has made her a borderline diabetic who gets chest pains. He has been derided for not standing up to her, but, that could have dire consequences since she has a history (from her mother) of being violent.

Answer 1

You respect her as being the wife of your best friend. Enough said.

Answer 2

I guess being an older woman has its advantages to recognizing a woman that is doing her best at raising children. We all know that if they came with an instructional booklet that life would be grand.
She is most likely loud because in a house of nothing but young men she will not be heard. She would have to have a good heart if one is to survive child rearing days.
I wonder when the last time was her husband took her out with plans for just her. She most likely is obnoxious , morbidly fat, dope smoker because some how she didn't realize as a young bride what she was getting her self into.
For those that has never had to be the one in charge of 4 growing boys and evidently a husband that doesn't help with discipline then she has to be it all. As far as cussing she has no other way to vent other than to use very expressive words.
As far as a real job she has one and that is first and foremost those boys. Where she would get the energy to go work another job I just don't know. Most people out there call that laziness well I call it a woman doing the best she can. It might not be done the way you would do it but none the less its getting done. I for one hand her a metal.

Answer 3

OMG... You know my brother-in-law's wife?????????

Run...Run fast... take your children and hide them.....

The first time I caught mine smoking Cigs in the house.. I told her to get the he** out.... if she wanted to pollute her lungs that was fine.. but my children's. If she were ever to try to smoke pot in my house, I'd call the cops faster than she could waddle to the door.

She only tried to tell my son too do something once.. which usually would be fine, until she threw in a f*** and a GD.. that was uncalled for.. he was 5 and was getting ready for a bath.

No more.. I don't mind if they come for a visit.. it is in a public place.. and they cover the cost of a baby-sitter.

Answer 4

First I'd probably nominate my best friend for sainthood. Then I would try to focus on her good heart. The other things are things that only she can control. If your best friend can put up with her, and you want this person as your best friend, you can put up with it. At least you don't have to crawl into bed with her every night.

Answer 5

Just remember she is your wives friend not yours. There is a friendship she provides for your wife and every woman needs someone besides her hubby to lean on. Block the loud mouth out and keep the positive aspects she possess in mind.

Answer 6

I just want u to know that i,ve changed.I am no longer like that-forgive me,please.

Answer 7

You must experience the bad, in order to appreciate the good, my friend.

Answer 8

Wow,

Get away from her, and fast before she rubs off on you!

Answer 9

WOW, you've met my ex-husband's mother! Sucks to be you huh?

Answer 10

I know quite a few, My question would be directed to your friend.... What were you thinking????????? Love can be blind....