I have been with my fiancé for 3 1/2 years now, I just asked her to marry me 6 months ago, and sense then we have moved in together but now we fight almost every week. Is that normal?
2007-02-22 04:45:21 · 16 answers · asked by anzerkid 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yall are probably still trying to adjust to living together. Seperatly you both had your on way of doing things and now you are having to bring them together...sure its gonna cause conflict. Just hang in there...if things dont get better after a little while longer then something might be wrong.
2007-02-22 04:49:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It all depends on the stress you both deal with, maybe take a look at what is going on with the two of you that is different than before. This may help in cutting out some of the arguing. There is always a reason and if you are both true to each other and have not involved anyone else than you should be able to come to an understanding. It is normal for couples to fight but should not be a every week event. I hope things work out for the both of you.
Remind each other that "you don't know what you have until it's gone" and after 3 1/2 years together it would be a terrible way to find out that you both have what you want already. A good relationship is a lot of hard work but the benefits are great.
I wish you both the best of luck and hope you find a way to focus your energy on positive activities instead of fighting.
2007-02-22 04:56:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like there is a HUGE communication gap. What are you fighting about? Take notes. Maybe seek some premarital counseling before you take the big leap. This may save you from a divorce later on.
It's not unusual for couples to have disagreements. I have been married for 12 years and we've had our share of "fights". Most of them have been because of our tendencies to think of ourselves first or a misunderstanding. Again, only you know what you two are fighting about so only you can fix it. Seriously think about premarital counseling. Best wishes!
2007-02-22 04:55:02 · answer #3 · answered by dixi 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it is normal to fight. I would wonder what you fight about. Is it important stuff ? Is it going to matter tomorrow ?
If this is going on every week, NOT GOOD !!!
In your case living together may be a good thing although I myself don't approve of it.
My advice would be communicate. If you can talk about it, you can iron it out perhaps. Try that when all is going well, if you think you want this to be a grow old together situation.~~~~Jill
Good luck to you both & pray for peace !!!
2007-02-22 05:37:20 · answer #4 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is very normal for any couple to fight married or not married. If you live together u fight even more. Its just normal. Just sit down and find solutions are the only thing u can do. Never let problems go unresolved.
2007-02-22 04:55:47 · answer #5 · answered by mcpark2004 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not normal for you two to be fighting that much. I have been married for 4 years and my husband and me never fight. We argue over stupid little things every now and then, but that's it. If I have a problem with something he is doing, I tell him and he fixes it, and the other way around, if he has a problem with something I am doing, he tells me, and I fix it.
2007-02-22 07:12:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, how serious is the fight? Any couple living together will have a lot of disagreements on how to do things. if it is so bad you don't talk to each other afterwards or something, then you have a problem
2007-02-22 10:12:16 · answer #7 · answered by growing inside 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
in the 14 year that my wife and i have been together we have only fight 3 time that i no of she may say 2 but the last fight was about something stupid.
2007-02-22 04:52:22 · answer #8 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nope, not normal. If you're fighting SINCE you moved in together, it might mean your goals in life are a bit different or something, wanting different things out of it.
2007-02-22 04:49:37 · answer #9 · answered by barefoot_always 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I will say sometimes is like that, because it is said that not thing good comes easy, so you people are passing through text and understanding after that the love and understanding will grow.
you have to learn to bear her she too learn to bear you that is marriage for you it is not a bed of roses. is a union of endurance.
2007-02-22 05:14:03 · answer #10 · answered by uki 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋