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For his personal safety and everyone that he's responsible for, this person should wait it out. Suck it up and wait until he's back. He's being put into a no-win situation where he can't fight back or defend himself, and at the same time, he's got to keep his cool and concentrate on keeping safe and protecting others. He *needs* NO additional stress. Anyone that would put this kind of burden on him and his comrads is immature, cruel, and irresponsible.

2007-02-22 04:56:25 · answer #1 · answered by punchy333 6 · 0 0

I serve in the military...

The answer to your question is no...

And for good reason too. No judge is going to allow you to bring up matters in court without giving him a chance to defend himself and since he can't just up and fly home from Iraq, you're going to have to wait until he returns if you really want this divorce. If a court were to allow this than every female that wanted a divorce could take away everything without giving the spouse a chance.

Divorces are a big thing... I suggest you put some thought behind this.

2007-02-22 05:12:30 · answer #2 · answered by Robert V 2 · 2 0

man.... I served in Iraq during the earlie 90's. I saw first hand the results of war on a soldier ( I was a medic). I also saw the effects of being served papers upon arrival back home or worse even yet, being served while in the 'zone'. Im sure you have good reasons but your timing is horrible. Let him be for now and go about the business of your life. Talk to him once he has been back a month or so.

2007-02-22 04:50:59 · answer #3 · answered by Surrendered 2 · 5 0

it fairly isn't any longer an exceptionally clever question.... the spouses have not got the militia preparation required to flow into the conflict zone, subsequently you will possibly finally end up with a lot of lifeless militia spouses through fact the completed united states is a conflict zone. It takes a reliable guy or woman to be the important different of militia workers through fact they are on my own and generally single discern's for a pair of years at a time. absolutely everyone that marries a militia guy or woman needs to comprehend this stepping into... my ex replaced into militia and that they ruled his existence 24/7. My father's pastime takes him removed from domicile 3 weeks out of the month. We miss him and seek advice from him generally yet this replaced right into a call he made and at his age, it replaced into the only pastime he ought to get. My brother worked on an offshore oil rig for various years and he might artwork 30 days on and 30 off. replaced into his spouse sacrificing something through fact of his profession determination? i do no longer think of so and that i've got faith a similar way relating to the militia.... you signed as much as do a job, now you're being asked to try this pastime. I incredibly have a step-daughter in Iraq and he or she is doing precisely what she signed as much as do.... she is doing her pastime. i do no longer evaluate her a hero for doing this it fairly is in simple terms her decision of careers. She knows my perspectives on George W. Bush's conflict yet i admire her and deliver her care applications weekly, militia outfits that the militia won't supply and the rest she desires or needs.

2016-10-16 06:15:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Please dont do that. My friend told her husband, when he came home for that 2 week R & R, that she had met someone while he was away and it destroyed him. He had to go back to that God forsaken place with the knowledge his wife was with another man and wanted a divorce. It screwed his head bad. He LT. took him off all missions and took his weapons away. Those guys over there see things that you will never imagine in a million years and sometimes the only thing that gets them through a day is knowing what they have back home waiting for them. It may sound cruel to you, to string him along while he's away and to give him false hope, but unless you really hate him and dont mind him dead, just pretend if you have to. Why do you want a divorce? My husband served over there for 18 months and yah, there were times i felt so far from him, mentally and emotionallly, not just physically, i thought our marriage would never survive. It took work to reconnect when he came back, but we did it. Just think about it before you do it. Think about his safety, frame of mind and well being before you think about yours, while your in the safety of your own home and bed and having to wonder if today is your last day on this earth.

2007-02-22 04:51:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 6 0

You are the most self centered person . Why would you want to do that to the man you loved at one time. Can't you keep your pants on until he returns. He is putting his life on the line for his country and you, and you can't wait a few months. I hope the old saying that what goes around comes around to your front door.
You should be ashamed of yourself. He deserve better.

2007-02-22 05:09:17 · answer #6 · answered by springer 3 · 0 0

Anything is possible. My husband was over seas as well and we were constantly fighting over the fact that he was over there when he needed to be home with me and our daughter. I was pregnant the whole time he was gone so you can understand my situation. But when he got home we had to do marraige counceling because he was so insecure when he was up there about me cheating on him. He was gone for 545 days. Try all other options before divorce. Remember this, everyone gets or goes through one divorce, don't let it happen again.

2007-02-22 05:16:31 · answer #7 · answered by butterfly 1 · 0 2

Ugh, don't tell me you are one of those military spouses that just couldn't handle your man/woman being away and found somebody oh so much more perfect than he or she could ever be? Do you know how often this happens? Welcome to becoming a statistic and gosh what a lucky person they are to be married to somebody as selfish as yourself! Remember what you do to others eventually comes back to you.

2007-02-22 04:59:06 · answer #8 · answered by dixi 4 · 1 0

you may be able to, but soldiers are offered protection by the Soldier's Civil Relief Act - which could effectively delay the proceeding until he returns to the states.

Besides, if you divorce a servicemember while overseas you may forfeit health insurance and survivor's benefits.

Consult an attorney and consider this carefully.

2007-02-22 04:51:28 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel M 4 · 0 2

Dear John hope your doing well dodging bullets.Just wanting to tell you i want a divorce.Have a nice day??
Myself i think you should wait till he is out of arms way.
Then tell him.So he won't be distracted on doing his duty's.

2007-02-22 04:53:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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