what do men really care about? Guys, please input...?

Question

I feel really bad about myself, I see these playboy magazines, women with no wrinkles galore! I have 4 children, im full of stretch marks and Im out of shape. Im still young, 30 years old and I feel like 70. Ladies this is true, no exagerations. I really look auful.
I wonder if my husband likes me, he tells me that he loves me and all, wants to help me with housework, is insulted if I dont ask for help, we even fight over him wanting to help and me not letting him. He helps me so that I can finish college and he seems like he is physically interested. But.... I dont trust him because he is so good hearted he wont tell me the truth about me. He does look around at other ladies, just like many men, but is this a sign that he doesnt love me anymore or is phisically unattracted?
when a man really loves a woman, how do you know?
the other day he told me that he has a preference for blue eyes but he overlooked it all and took me because im so special. I was crushed when he told me. help!

Answer 1

This guy really loves you. First, he's telling you the truth that you're special. He's looking at the magazines because he loves to look at nice looking women, but he's at home all the time, right?? Then, you have nothing to worry about. Maybe, he's visualizing these other women if you look so bad to keep himself into it, that's not necessarily a bad thing, because he's doing whatever it takes to stay together.

Looks and beauty come and go, but it seems he genuinely loves and cares about you. It sounds like he knows this.

Answer 2

i am not sure what is going on in your husbands mind but htis what i think and i am only 22 male single but i think you are a wife who loves her husband and i am telling you that your husband married you when you were young of course every one ages over time but he thinks he deserves better. first of all he should have not told you about his blue eyes preference which as a man tells me that there is more than blue eyes on his mind. secondly i would not look for the beauty only i would look for character too but some men fall for beauty only. i have a question too what was the last time you had sex if it has been three months or more or even month that means there is some thing wrong believe me that if i will get married i will try to hold on to my wife until one of us dies no matter how uglier and unattractive she becomes remember when you get married you say the words "for better or for worse" and not too many people understand the phrase. but i hope things work out for you