I'm married to a wonderful man who's a good father and a loving provider for our family. We do share a different lifestyle from most but we protect our children from our sexual activities as well as ourselves healthwise. The problem we have is physical and it's driving me to my wits end. I'm afraid I'm going to lose my husband if something can't be done.
My husband is large (if you know what I mean) and when we make love he hurts me and it really makes a mess everywhere (it's disgusting), all over the bed and me, oral is out of the question. I'm not a small woman, size 12 and five seven and I've been to the doctor only to be told that nothing is wrong with me. I never have this problem with other men, only him. I've had three children but it hasn't loosened anything up and usually I bleed some after. It's almost as if instead of marrying a man I married a horse. Is there any kind of surgery I could have for this or am I doomed to only having painfull and messy sex with my husband?
2007-02-22 04:33:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Lubrication dosen't seen to help at all.
2007-02-22 04:51:19 · update #1
You should talk to your doctor again about any possible surgery that can be done to help you. You can purchase lubricants, if what the other reviewer suggested is true, that will help. Good luck.
2007-02-22 04:40:48 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hi, try to not think about this problem if you want to call it one. How about you just enjoy your man love making, and not worry about the mess. i don't think he just got bigger all of the sudden, I mean you married him years a go, and you had kids from him and that mean this is not the first time you see him and make love to him, so if you dealt with him before, you should differently ignore the issue and just be happy with him. Don't think about surgery because it is not fair to you that you have to go through all that. Just enjoy your man, and let him know that you want him to be more easy on you and that way your well enjoy more.
2007-02-22 12:44:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try Diffrent Lubes.
2007-02-22 13:49:12 · answer #3 · answered by bob r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to your gynocologist and ask again. look up on the internet diffrent procedures for vaginal surgery, talk to a sex therapist! sex should not be painful for you! also talk to your husband. maybe a lot of lube and some warming up is called for!
2007-02-22 12:43:22 · answer #4 · answered by Carrie H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you've been to a doctor and there's nothing wrong....Did you not pose the question of surgery whilst you were there?
In order for you to get your answer to this, you should go back and see your doctor.
Sorry I couldn't give you any other answer.
2007-02-22 12:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The vagina is made to stretch. Try some good lube and perhaps he needs to be more patient and do other things to get you ready.
2007-02-22 13:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by Nunya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he can take something to shrink it. Just kidding, lubrication is probably the only thing to help. Good luck!
2007-02-22 12:40:15 · answer #7 · answered by Jewel 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to see a very good GYN and ask him or her. This is way too much to be posted on this site.
2007-02-22 12:43:03 · answer #8 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drink a bottle of wine.
2007-02-22 13:24:35 · answer #9 · answered by Viking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is a surgery that can be done to strech your walls. but tell your husband.
2007-02-22 12:42:25 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Mama 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋