I have two kids, a 16 month old and 1 one month old. I am a stay at home mom and pretty much do everything regarding our home (cleaning, finances, dinner, etc). Ever since our first child i don't feel like my spouse appreciates all i do. All he does is go to work and come home and help out with one of our kids for a couple hours (i usually am up all night with the one month old though). I ask very little of him regarding cleaning and he only manages to help like once a month, but he can manage to make a mess for me to clean up every single day. He seems to think my life is a cake walk staying home and that he has it harder. I'm not saying he doesn't work hard, but can i get some advice here on how to get him to appreciate me more?
2007-02-22 04:31:57 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The only way he's really going to understand the demands of being a mommy is if he becomes one. You have your hands full and anyone who has a toddler and an infant would have to agree that it's the hardest job out there.
See if your husband is willing to give you an occasional day off. Leave the kids, go to the spa or to a girlfriends house and enjoy some time off. Maybe when you come home he'll feel some appreciation.
2007-02-22 04:39:49 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to trade for a week. But then again, most men won't even do what he does, so before you push buttons be thankful that he does what he does. Most men are like that to their wives even if the wife works full time too. Men also have a problem showing appreciation along with other things, but unless you say something to us, we don't know. We're not tthe brightest creatures, and don't take subtle hints well. If you would like to know if he appreciates what you do, ask him.
2007-02-22 04:44:36 · answer #2 · answered by Steel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about terming it "appreciating your wife"...not "babys momma"...that just sounds ignorant. Appreciate that he goes to work every day, many mothers dont have that support, appreciate that he comes home every night, many women dont have that, if you want to get appreciated, you have to show appreciation. Do things to suprise him, and in time he will return that to you. Put notes of appreciation in his lunch, make sure you look nice when he gets home from work, dont wear sweats and t shirts, give him a nice footrub, scrub his back in the shower, take a shower with him, slip in when he least expects it, give him a reason to WANT to do the same for you. Make him feel like he is the S*** in your household, compliment him, make him proud of you in the way you carry yourself, the way you dress, speak, and when you are out, compliment him in front of his friends, make him proud to be with you. Thats the secret to keeping your man
2007-02-22 05:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by kimmy3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds just like my sister however she works, takes care of my nephew 18 months, cleans the house ect..Her husband(unfortunately my borther in law) is a messy, no good low down loser who does nothing, he hardly works, never ever helps her out with the house, has never changed his sons diapers, hardly plays with him, yells at him alot for nothing, when my sister is working he refuses to watch his own dam son and doesn NOT appreciate anything she does. My sister has begged and pleaded to the end and he still does nothing, she has threatened to leave him several times and he cries and says he'll change but he NEVER does...My point is he will not change and their is nothing you can do about it!
2007-02-22 05:02:39 · answer #4 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him appreciation first. Tell him how you appreciate that he works and you can stay home, and how he needs his sleep at night so he doesn't get fired. Once he knows you mean it he will be willing to help more and appreciate you back. You have to give it first to get it back.
2007-02-22 04:40:42 · answer #5 · answered by healing wings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"All he does is go to work and come home and help out with one of our kids for a couple hours " Ummmm maybe YOU should appreciate your spouse for going out and working to bring home the bacon to feed and clothe your children and quit complaining.
2007-02-22 05:01:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't... He has to do that on his own.
2007-02-22 04:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by honeyluv_2010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋