he looks camp, talks camp, has many girl mates and not so many boy mates, and wants to work as a hair dresser but he has said over and over he is straight
2007-02-22 04:31:53 · 34 answers · asked by Bruza 17/uk 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Being a hairdresser does mean that he gets to be around women, lots of them, and get to know them.
Maybe he's straight, maybe he's gay, maybe he's bi. You've already asked, and he's given the answer you want to give at the moment. If he's not gay, you're not going to make him so by asking, you'll only make him frustrated. If he is, let him know you'll support him. Either way, there are lots of ways to be a man.
2007-02-22 04:38:36 · answer #1 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
1. metrosexual
A straight man who embraces the homosexual lifestyle, i.e. refined tastes in clothing, excessive use of designer hygiene products, etc. Usually is on the brink of homosexuality.
"Mike has become a metrosexual after shaving off his stubble and using expensive skin products to soften his cherubic facial features".
2. metrosexual
You might be "metrosexual" if:
1. You just can't walk past a Banana Republic store without making a purchase.
2. You own 20 pairs of shoes, half a dozen pairs of sunglasses, just as many watches and you carry a man-purse.
3. You see a stylist instead of a barber, because barbers don't do highlights.
4. You can make her lamb shanks and risotto for dinner and Eggs Benedict for breakfast... all from scratch.
5. You only wear Calvin Klein boxer-briefs.
6. You shave more than just your face. You also exfoliate and moisturize.
7. You would never, ever own a pickup truck.
8. You can't imagine a day without hair styling products.
9. You'd rather drink wine than beer... but you'll find out what estate and vintage first.
10. Despite being flattered (even proud) that gay guys hit on you, you still find the thought of actually getting intimate with another man truly repulsive.
"Some people think he's gay, but he's actually metrosexual."
2007-02-22 04:54:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can't assume someone is gay by the way he looks, talks, what profession he chooses to be in or how many friends of the opposite sex he has. You can tell him that you love and support him no matter if he is gay or straight, but if he says he is straight, you could be offending him terribly if it turns out that he really IS straight and you keep suggesting he is gay. My fiance has a softer sounding voice, he works as a manager at our city's opera, he doesn't have that "manly swagger" when he walks, so some MIGHT think he is gay. I am here to tell you though, that this guy is extremely macho and masculine. He is REALLY into sports, loves hanging out with his buddies, has been with many women before he met me, is a devoted father to 2 wonderful kids, he works with a lot of gay people but doesn't agree with the lifestyle (though he has no issue with those he works with). You can't just assume your brother is gay. Talk to him. Tell him how he comes across to you, in a loving, non-judgmental way. Ask him to be honest with you. Then accept what he says for being the truth and live with it.
2007-02-22 04:42:12 · answer #3 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He may not be gay and he may not feel comfortable coming out yet. Just get to know him as a person.. Believe it or not there are a lot of male hairdressers that are not gay... Just because he has a lot of girl mates doesn't mean that he is gay... Put it this way it might be an advantage for you to get to date some of his girl mates lol.. Then again he might be.. The question does it matter to you he is still your brother regardless if he is or not! And why would you care all that should matter is if he is happy!
2007-02-22 05:03:07 · answer #4 · answered by Latinfun G 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You cannot assume he is gay just because of the way he acts. I have a friend who everyone thought was gay when he was at school - he too had lots of female friends and not so many male friends, and he is now married and will soon have two children. He is living proof that stereotyping does not work.
If he is gay or bisexual, then you CANNOT make him come out. That is entirely up to him. If he is still in the closet, then he hasn't come out to himself and he definetely won't come out to you (or anyone else for that matter).
All you can do is be a good brother to him, whatever happens. If he turns out to be straight, then wish him all the best. If he turns out to be gay or bisexual then he'll need your support.
2007-02-22 05:01:07 · answer #5 · answered by nemesis 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that other men automatically think another man is gay if he wants to do hair and has a lot of gal pals! What it really means is that guys just get jealous of that fact and want to quickly place him in the gay family. Maybe you should ask him to find you more gal pals so you can feel special to. If he is gay.... Well then he's gay but if he tells you that he is not then as a brother you should respect him and stop trying to find out for yourself! If he wanted you to know I am sure he would tell you. I mean come on your his brother right??
2007-02-22 04:49:49 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why does it bother you so much if he's gay, he's your brother and you should love him no matter what.
Even IF he is gay you should stop pestering him and give him a chance to come to turns with his sexuality. Maybe he isnt gay and just in touch with his femnine side - Lee Stafford wears a lot of pink and is hairdresser and 100% straight!!! Dont put labels on people
2007-02-22 06:02:01 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Claire - Hates Bigotry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This does not prove much does it. I have seen many straight people like this. Do you remember on last years X Factor there was a group called 'Eton Road'? There was a member on that group who looked gay, acted gay and etc. He then proposed to a woman on stage.
So really, do you think he is?
2007-02-22 06:33:09 · answer #8 · answered by calipornication 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be, but on the otherhand some guys are a bit more on the feminine side. It's a bit like a girl who likes to hang around guys as friends and acts tomboyish - it's doesn't necesarily mean that she's a lesbian. Just give him space.
2007-02-22 11:04:49 · answer #9 · answered by m l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i spent 7 yrs working in a hairdresser's, straight out of school. i got ribbed terribly because i got on so well with the women, but at 35, married with some kids it just seems funny that people still stigmatise.
is it a case of projection, that you're just testing the waters to see his reaction to the thought of someone in his family who was gay ?
2007-02-26 02:30:23 · answer #10 · answered by price 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋