These days i would be considered EDNOS if i were to go back. I've had a lot of issues latley that are just driving me a little crazy. Part of me wants to fix the problem, start eating like a normal, healthy 23 year old. And the other part of me.. wants to go even crazier.. I always try to be good for about a day, and then i end up even worse than i was the day before. I really dont' want to go back to a therapist, or to ANY doctor.
But i just can't stand living like this anymore my mother has been pressuring me to even get help (which she didn't when i was underweight) I have had three miscarriages and although my fiance doesn't say it straight out, i know he blames the eating disorder (the doctors that i spoke to after the miscarriages said somethign along the lines as well)
Do you think it is possible to stop feeling like this about my body and my eating habbits without having to go to any type of doctor? Has anyone ever "kicked the habbit" without some help??
Please help
2007-02-22 04:29:08 · 7 answers · asked by Megan S 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Oh yes, I do - but I am not sure the medical community is actually the best way. The medical community seems to deal with everything with a pill and what is called for with something like an eating disorder is not a pill, but a lifestyle change.
Many illnesses are caused by mental and emotional issues and they can be solved by correcting the internal cause more easily than they can by the medicine, in my opinion. Eating disorders are often caused by fear and self criticism - which makes it easy to see why it affects young women and folks in times of transition (which as a fiance and prospective mother you are certainly in transition).
There is a great book called "You can heal your life" by Louise Hay (http://www.amazon.com/o/ASIN/0937611018/ref=s9_asin_image_1/002-0529028-3531238 ) that goes into great detail about this theory, but I will recommend the following things for you:
Listen to your thoughts. Any time you hear one that says something negative (like "I think my fiance blames me" or even "I just can't deal with this") gently stop yourself and say "No, that's not right. I can deal with this or He has never blamed me". What you are trying to do it be more conscious of your thoughts and take control over them. It is easy to change ones mind - but the price of freedom is eternal vigilance.
Yoga can be a great way to make your body a friend again and help you get your mind under control, too. Seated poses are grounding, inverted poses help you see a new perspective and balancing poses can add balance to your emotions and your life. I use Yoga Journal (http://www.yogajournal.com/ ) because they have a lot of information. Getting started info, detailed pose descriptions and pictures, even a pose finder to help you pick your focus - all for free.
Visualize yourself happy, peaceful and just the right size. Sit quietly for 3-5 minutes and get a good clear picture in your mind of yourself happy. Add your Fiance to the picture - see him happy, healthy and adoring you. Add a baby if you want that in your life now.
About the baby...23 is very young in my opinion. I was 30 when I started having kids and I am oh so very glad that I did and that I enjoyed the 20s without the pressure and responsibilities of children. It's not selfish, it's important. Once you have kids you are working around the clock at least for the first few years while they go to school - you need to be content in your life and willing to dedicate yourself to them. It sounds to me like this issue in your life could be causing you the stress and self doubt that is doing you some harm.
If you want to have a baby, you likely need more progesterone in your system. Organic yams are a great way to help that happen - but so is yam cream. Here's a link to the Yam Cream I use: http://www.mynsp.com/carole/products/guide.aspx?stockNum=4936 It totally rocks and has helped many women get pregnant.
If you are feeling bogged down by general stress in life (and at this time of year the urge to change is so strong) there are some herbal remedies you can consider. Herbal remedies are generally safe with few side effects - and often they help your body get back on track so that it can eventually do the work itself again, while with medicine, often the medicine is meant to take over the function in the body indefinitely which helps the body forget how to handle that function all together.
When I had terrible post partum depression I took SAMe (http://www.mynsp.com/carole/products/guide.aspx?stockNum=1845 ) and it was amazing. In 15 minutes I felt a bit more like my old self and was thrilled to feel like I would be happy again. I don't think I took it for even 6 months, but it made a profound difference in my mood and helped me to take control of my life back.
Kava Kava is a very gentle relaxing herb: http://www.mynsp.com/carole/products/guide.aspx?stockNum=405
If you are taking medications, please do discuss these supplements with the prescribing physician before you start taking them. If you are going it alone, you need to include someone else in your plan so that you have support and another pair of eyes on you to help out. If you live with your fiance it might be a good idea to talk to him and work out a plan. Try these things for 2 weeks and if you don't see a difference, then maybe make a change - and remind yourself to listen to him if he wants to talk to you about. It is in both of your best interests that you are healthy, right?
Peace!
2007-02-22 04:55:17 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a councelor. If you don't like your former therapist, get a new one- a one that you feel comfortable talking to. You've been going through a lot of stuff, and there's no reason why you need to go through it all alone.
Good luck
2007-02-22 05:00:22 · answer #2 · answered by jimbell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've had multiple miscarriages your health and possibly your life are at risk. See a counselor now. You've got to get help with this kind of problem. I know most anorexics think they are strong enough to deal with it but guess what? Your strong mind is what got you in this position and it will NOT help you overcome it. You need real counseling.
2007-02-22 04:51:39 · answer #3 · answered by MissWong 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is too serious to try to tackle on your own. Get help, but make sure that you see the right counselor.
2007-02-22 04:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by MG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first step to having a problem is admitting it. But you can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped...you have to want it.
2007-02-22 04:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by Cathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea it will help u get through it
2007-02-23 23:20:51 · answer #6 · answered by helpme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO TO YOUR COUNCELOR
2007-02-22 04:32:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋