Why don't women keep their men happy?

Question

I meet so many married men who are miserable... they all say they love their wives, their wives are their best friends, their wives are great mothers.... but they are all miserable because their wives make no effort in the bedroom, or maybe don't even know what it means to be good in bed... why is this?

He may (Very surely) want to sleepwith me... that's irrelevant.

So it's the man's fault. Got it.

Put aside all the loser men out there... if you think the majority of the "good" married men are happy with their sex partners performance, then you are very mistaken.

Answer 1

Women have been so busy with their "me time" that they never learned how to treat a man. It's all about gimme gimme gimme. Women have been told that sex = submission and therefore they should NEVER submit to some MAN. It's not even a matter of being "good in bed" it's a matter of being loving and affectionate.
If a wife refuses to keep her man happy, someone else will. You can't marry a man, demand fidelity, and then refuse him sex because you don't feel like it or are too tired or moody or angry or upset or feeling fat or whatever the other 101 excuses are.

Answer 2

I know in my first marriage there were a lot of resentments on my part. I felt like the child rearing was 100% my job. I was exhausted at the end of the day. Dads are so important but when they don't participate in parenting, there's going to be some resentment. Well, going to bed tired and resentful isn't exactly a good formula for great sex.
By the way, I know a lot of women who would love to have a man show their love all the time, not just when they want to get laid.

Answer 3

Personally, I think it is a great question...It's also one I wish I knew the answer to because I am one of those miserable husbands.

My wife is a great mother, and an awesome wife. But as for being a lover... She doesn't feel she should have to make any effort to be pleasing or even physically attractive. She says she doesn't think it should matter to me if I really love her.

The truth is, I do love her, immensely. I simply don't feel any attraction or passion for her anymore for a number of different reasons, not the least of which is her indifference.

Maybe it's socialization?

Answer 4

As a man whose wife keeps me very happy...

There seems to me to be two kinds of women who have this problem. The first is the kind of woman who has a husband who is useless. Eventually, she gets tired of trying. He doesn't work, he just sits on the couch and plays video games. I had one female friend tell me once, "My husband submitted a resume yesterday. I was so excited that we spent almost half an hour making love. We hadn't done that in almost six months." Wow... that over a resume, eh? I wonder what she'd do if he got a job... but he's too busy with his friends and his video games and his hobbies, he can't be bothered with little things like taking care of his wife or finding a job, after all, he had that job that one time and got screwed so it's all pointless. Guys like that need to be shot. And not somewhere nice like the head or chest... they need twelve shots, one to the center of each foot, then one at each of the knees to take off the pain from the feet (by taking off everything below the knee, of course) then one to each thumb, then each hand, then each elbow, then one to castrate them, and the final one... well, I guess you can stop there. That's only eleven though. One more if you need it to stop the screaming. (I know I'm too kind... but torture is just too much work to put into someone like that.)

The other kind of woman that has an unsatisfied man is the prissy kind. This is the kind of woman that, if the man wants to get lucky, he's got to seduce her. He's got to take a day off work, buy her flowers and chocolates, and then follow it up with a back massage. Oh, and the dishes had better already be done (what... the woman do dishes? Never!) and she'd better have been out at least three times with her friends that week, otherwise he's being too controlling. And she works really hard at the four hour a day job she has, and he had better not get started on the two hour commute to the ten hour a day job he hates, that really anoys her when he tries to act like he's got some kind of status just because he works harder. And after all the chocolates and candy and taking a day off of work and the massage and the expensive dinner, he can't just expect her to instantly "be in the mood." If she's not, he'll just have to try again next time. Umm... excuse me?!?! Women like that need to realize that marriage comes with responsibilities. They used to call it a woman's chores. If that's what it is to that woman, then so-be-it... but the man is working hard to provide for his wife and it's not fair to expect him to all the "putting out" and her to do none. In my opinion, she needs to make sure that he's getting his needs met on a regular basis, and if she can't be bothered with it, she'd better provide him with someone who will. Men don't get married to be celebate, although women like that seem to sometimes.

Answer 5

It's not the woman's responsiblity to make her husband happy, if he isn't happy it is because something inside of HIM isn't right. Besides you're making a blanket statement about all women when the only women you KNOW are like this (at least because their husbands SAY they are). If you want to know why the wives of them men who SAY their wives don't do anything in bed are like that you're going to have to ask THEM specifically, rather than making unintelligent blanket statements about people you don't know.

Answer 6

Remember, it always takes 2 to look at the issue of troubled sexual life within a marriage so one sidedly is ridiculous.

Answer 7

most married men want to play after they get tired of the marriage. its a woman job to spice it up.

Answer 8

Women have to work, take care of their children, clean the house, cook, and then have sex with their spouse. By that time, they just want to be left alone I would think. . .

Answer 9

hahaha good answer clubchaos... it is NO woman's job to keep her man happy. Perhaps he'd like to try spending one day in her shoes. Then lets see if he's "up" to it in the bedroom. If he ain't happy, there's always his hand....

Answer 10

Because men lack in being romantic and enticing us into the bedroom. Women have emotional needs while men seem to have physical needs. When they can fulfill our unmet emotional needs, we are willing to fill their physical needs.