what kind of traumatizing effects can being bullied have?

Question

have you ever been bullied? and if so, did it have any detrimental effects on you? i've been bullied for like the past 7 years and so far I've gained about 60 pounds, i've lost my vision in my right eye (due to severe and sudden weight gain), suffered with bulimia, began smoking cigarettes, and mainly, a lot of psychological trauma (insomnia, obsessing over one event, loss of relationships with people, constantly thinking of my bully, and severe depression, feelings of guilt, hopelessness, and many more). how to cure these things?

Answer 1

I've been bullied many times through out my younger years. I've noticed that I reacted in two ways. One was that I became withdrawn and became anti-social and very self conscious. When my behavior changed, the self consciousness didn't leave but I became controlling. Excessive eating is a common form of control. I became angry at the world as this morphisis progressed (and I was hitting puberty) and, ultimately, I became the bully. Now, I still have controlling issues but I try to direct them towards myself. For instance, I believe that you can never stop growing (or at least, if you stop, then you stop living and start existing). I try to remind myself to analyze and control my behavior and to use it to grow as an individual.

I see now that both ways were my survival techniques. Eventually I learned that I was not in the wrong (when I was being bullied). I know that I have problems but I cannot blame them all on the bullies because, in the end, I took it personal. I still take things personal but, now, I blow off most of the bullying.

Answer 2

Hire a hit man :) No , it takes time. If you are still in high school . don't worry about these people . They get theirs when they get out of there. Once you get out of school I pretty much promise you will NEVER see them again.Think about other things, obsessing is bad. Get out and see other people and you will see the problems you are having aren't the end of the world. When you get out of the situation you'll have a better perspective. You will look back and wonder why you even cared.

The above answer has good points. I have looked up some of these people and they ARE knocked up with 2-3 kids, working **** jobs, in the military. All crappy crap crap. Some of them have been to jail and can't get jobs , some of them are hooked on drugs.Its amazing what a few years can do.

Stay right and stick to the books, its really the only reason you are there.

Answer 3

The only way to cure it is to get out there and meet some "real" people. People that dont judge. I was bullied all through middle school and high school although i dont share the same symptoms as you, I still have a hard time trusting peoples genuineness. I have a real hard time making friends. What I have learned, now that I am graduating college, is that you have to put yourself out there and just try to get past the past. You also may want to move, moving is a great way to get away from the environment that was hostile to you. I have also looked up my previous bulliers, and they are nobodys!! People that usually bully end up getting nowhere, knocked up, working slum jobs, or in jail. they themselves have the problem..not you. thats what you have to focus on. there is no way to cure these symptoms unless you are ready to stand up for yourself and regain some of that selfesteem!!

Answer 4

Forgive them, they know not what they do. Their just pawns of ignorance and i have compassion in my heart for their lack of wisdom. As for you, let it go. I know its hard to let go, especially when people hurt you, but you will not imagine how great your understanding and wisdom will become, if you learn to let go. Understand the term, "what goes around, comes around!" Ive learnt that lesson many times in life, now i just try to do good because i know good will return. And if it helps, know that somebody far away has LOVE in their heart for you and that your not alone. Love, Light & Truth follow you where'ever you go.
P.S. Stop hurting yourself because others, through their ignorance, are hurting you. I know what it feels to do that and it will lead you down a road that you DONT want to tread.

Answer 5

get away from your bully, are you sure you are that screwed up? your name is sexy mami. i was bullied a bit but it just turned me into one so yea it had a negative effect.