tryed suggesting different things to do but hes not interested. this is not in bed its normal everyday life! hes 24 going on 70
2007-02-22 04:19:25 · 20 answers · asked by nuttytart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do what you're interested in without him. You're married, not tied together at the hip.
2007-02-22 04:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What brought you two together in the first place? What did you do when you were first dating? Suggest doing those things again. Find things that you like to do that are the same. My husband and I enjoyed window shopping at the mall and moviegoing before we had kids and we still have a date night twice a month even with kids. The best thing to do though is to talk to him about how you are feeling. Maybe he's just having a rough time right now, he's human afterall. We all go through rough patches!
Don't listen to the morons out there who tell you to find somebody new, you made vows to this man. It wasn't "until I get bored of you, do we part". Gauranteed even if you do find a new person, you will become bored of them to. The problem might not be your husband, it just might be you. Time to look to what's going on within yourself and figure out some things. Best of wishes!!
2007-02-22 12:34:28 · answer #2 · answered by dixi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmm...this sounds like a serious problem for which we don't have enough information. But, as usual, I'll dive right in.
Perhaps neither one of you is making an all-out effort to be a married COUPLE. Once those vows are made, you give up being "me" and "you" to become "us" and "we." By now, through sheer proximity to each other over the past few years(?), you must know something about the other. You know what he likes to do; he knows what you like to do. BOTH of you have to make an effort to do what the other likes. So some weekends you play computer games with him, other weekends he goes skiing with you. If either of you can't stand doing it, so what! You fake it. You pretend it gives you pleasure. It should, anyway, simply give you pleasure to be in the company of the other, so faking it shouldn't be so hard. After a while, you may find that you're not faking it anymore. Your desire to please the other may lead to a genuine appreciation for what she and he likes to do.
You may also need some marriage counseling. If you have gotten to the point where you can actually say, "He bores me," you need some serious intervention. You need to start talking about who you are, what your expectations are of each other, what your expectations are of this marriage. You need to work out whether or not this marriage is genuine and lasting. If it is, it's time to start doing more to make it a partnership. If it's not, it may be wiser to go your separate ways and seek out more suitable mates.
If you don't have children, please don't have any until you've taken a good, hard look at this marriage.
2007-02-22 12:35:47 · answer #3 · answered by katbyrd41 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He must have a hobby or something he likes to do? Try to get involved in his world for a while (even if it's boring) and then suggest doing things you want to do. Maybe he's depressed? He can't have always been boring otherwise you wouldn't have married him. Do the things you used to do together before you were married. Book a holiday without telling him, he'll have to go. Good Luck :0)
2007-02-22 12:26:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well that just means you know what you want and he don't and he really don't care about life and you want to live it to the fullest!!! It sounds like you two are on completely different pages in different books....He's too young for you the older men are better....I'm 31 and my husband is 40 and I have a hard time keeping up with him in all ways of life!!!
2007-02-22 12:24:15 · answer #5 · answered by esmccann2 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why did you marry him in the first place? Did he change? You will not be able to change him, so don't try. Either find the answer within yourself, or if you don't mind setting a precedent in your life of giving up, leave.
2007-02-22 12:27:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some guy's are different. You should have made sure that y'all like the same things as far as sex or technique. Before you got married
2007-02-22 12:29:31 · answer #7 · answered by Emmit 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well lets c i think u should plan a wkend get away. go out of your way and plan something he likes to do but spice it up so u both enjoy it show him u are willing to do what he likes to do to maybe it will open his eyes... if not i think u need outside help because you guys are young and u will be in trouble later in your relationship
2007-02-22 12:27:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you married the wrong fella. Get a divorce and find someone that doesn't bore you.
FP
2007-02-22 12:22:18 · answer #9 · answered by F. Perdurabo 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Make him do something without all your friends and see what happens. If he still bores you sue him for lost companionship and failure to provide a fulfilling marriage.
2007-02-22 12:28:33 · answer #10 · answered by bosco 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋