i have a best friend that i grew up with and he is the cutest thing and i love every thing that he sdoes for me. Im cool with his mom his sister and his step dad i just dont know if i should tell him wut i feel. i am cool with his best friend but he likes me and i cant tell him to tell this guy!!
i am so confused i need help PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!
everyone i know knows that i like him and ive heard that he likes me but i dont know what to believe.
I REALY DONT WANT TO RUIN OUR FRIENDSHIP IF HE DOESNT FEEL THE SAME WAY!!!
IF HE DOESNT FEEL THE SAME WAY I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-22 04:18:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Put the ball in his court...Ask him if he has ever thought about being more than just friends with you. If he says yes, then you are half way there. But, If he says no, tell him how you value his friendship and leave it alone.
2007-02-22 04:23:42 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Kamm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there. The best thing to do is just casually drop into a normal conversation (a conversation about relationships, love or even about other friends getting together) a very general question along the lines of "do you ever think about us being more than friends?" or "do you think that friends can become lovers?".
He may get what you are going for and give you the answer you want, but if not, he will at least respond in a more positive way than he might if you just tell him that you love him.
Approach it with subtlety and you won't harm the friendship. Confess your adoration for him and you could see him running for the hills.
2007-02-22 12:24:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have such deep feelings for him it is going to change your relationship anyway. You have already moved on from just friendship so that is going to affect the way you treat him. The only question now is if he has moved on from just friendship. My husband and I started out as friends and we have now been married 13 years. Our friendship has made our marriage more solid. Talk to your best friend. Tell him that over the time your feelings for him have changed and deepened. Tell him you are not expecting anything from him that you just needed to tell him that your feelings have changed. If you are lucky, he will feel the same way. If he tries to tell you he doesn't want to ruin or change your friendship by becoming your bf, explain that there has already been a change in your friendship by your increased feelings for him. Don't try and force an answer out of him straight away. He might be feeling confused over his own feelings. Give him time to sort them out. Good luck and I hope things work out for you both.
2007-02-22 12:26:57 · answer #3 · answered by Avril P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take the leap and tell him. If he doesnt like you back, then spend some time away from him so you both can have some time to think things over. If he does like you as a friend, but not more than that, then it shouldnt ruin your relationship.
2007-02-22 12:22:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out in a slow careful way maybe
maybe share a motel room sometime and see what happens
if its just an almost thing, no reason to ruin a friendship I think
2007-02-22 12:22:39 · answer #5 · answered by k eric b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't risk it unless you are prepared...i felt the same way about one of my guy friends as it turns out he didn't return my love. I hope in your case he does...if not knowing is driving you crazy though...just come out and tell him, hope for the best and be prepared for the worst
2007-02-22 12:22:02 · answer #6 · answered by *<dEzI>* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him whut you feel girl, and if he dun click with ya as his best friend u have got to accept it and just b happy for him k?
2007-02-22 12:29:58 · answer #7 · answered by THEGURU 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wont know unless you tell him
2007-02-22 12:23:02 · answer #8 · answered by wrfab 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋