SO I'm marrying my fiance, Susan from New York and she plans to meet my kids on Saturday March 10th in MA . However, My ex- Bridget, wants a full criminal background check on her including social security number before she will allow her to meet them. The ironic point is that Susan's applying for a NH license and needs a criminal background check before they will license her, but my ex wants independant confirmation (and to look at it )- She says that I have dated too many innapropriate woman over the past few years so "its my fault". Is bridget being fair or just crazy?
2007-02-22 04:11:57 · 23 answers · asked by pedidoc43 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are crazy if you go along with it! And Susan is just as crazy if she is OK with handing over all that info about herself to your ex. Your ex has NO right to that info, and NO control over who or what you do. You give into her on this and her demands will only get more OUTRAGEOUS! If you have visitation rights, then let Susan meet them during that time, your ex has no say what you do when you have them. If you do not have visitation rights, then get a lawyer and get them. If your ex then tries to prevent you from seeing your kids as the court dictates then she is in violation of the court order and can spend spend time in jail if the judge orders it.
if you have dated too many inappropriate women in the past that is your fault and Susan should not have to pay for it or make it right. And your ex-should not hold your past against the person who is your future.
bottom line get a lawyer and get this taken care of now-it is for your children's benefit the stability of a regular visitation schedule will help make them feel secure and that they can count on you.
2007-02-22 04:28:47 · answer #1 · answered by whatelks67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex- is just making it as hard as possible on you. As far as the Social security number that is taking it way to far. I definitely would not provide her with that information. If you have court ordered visitation with your children it is no business of your ex who or what they do when they are with you, unless there is some type of abuse. Which I don't think so. Because I am sure your ex would have taken you back to court. You sound like a Dad who just wants to include your children in your life and meeting your fiance and seeing how they get along is normal. Your ex needs to get over it.
2007-02-22 04:21:45 · answer #2 · answered by Janst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is crazy just tell her to go to the Court house where she is from and see if she has a rap sheet your ex sounds like she is trying to sabotage, your upcoming marriage, she doesn't need to have her social security number either and your fiance should not give it to her.she sounds like a real bit** she can use her SS number for anything including identity theft so no don't you let her get her SS number your the man put your foot down if you have visitation rights enforce the law and have her meet them during your visitation
2007-02-22 04:19:28 · answer #3 · answered by Denny O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is looking for a way to interfere. She simply can't stand the fact that you are happy. But on the other hand, just let her be who she is. Show her the criminal record check, but black out any of the info that she does not need to see. All she needs to see is her name, and the bottom line (no criminal activity). Give her a photocopy with all of the extra info blacked out. And then tell her to leave you alone. I'm sure she needs assurance that her children will be taken care of. She also needs to know that there is no other woman on earth that will replace her as your children's mother. It may be appropriate to have them meet. (that is if you ex isn't likely to get out of hand) No matter what, it is the kids that are the concern, and you shouldn't need approval form your ex as to who you are to be with, but I believe she does have a say in who cares for them, and as long as she is being reasonable, there should be no problem!
2007-02-22 04:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
she is beyond crazy. Man why did you marry her in the first place anyway, no offense. Tell her to get over it and that you love Susan. She doesn't have a righ to ask for a criminal background. And the kids are your too not just Brigets!!!
Hope this helps.
2007-02-22 04:17:02 · answer #5 · answered by GirlyGirl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree 100% with the 3rd answer ! I think Bridget needs a psychological examination.
2007-02-22 04:21:50 · answer #6 · answered by maggie209 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be just trying to make things difficult for you. But look at it this way: At least she IS looking out for your kids! Having said that, did you ask her if she requires background checks before the men she dates meet your children?
2007-02-22 04:15:35 · answer #7 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is totally un reasonable
I'd would contact your lawyer and have him write a letter to her and her lawyer. It'll cost you money but if it shuts this biotchs mouth it may be worth it. Hopefully her lawyer will bill her for this also. Maybe then she will slow down on the frivolous complaints.
This woman is a total control freak----ain't ya glad you are not married to her anymore
2007-02-22 04:19:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Only you know if you have dated bad women in the past if you have then I would just get the background check done to make your ex feel comfortable.
2007-02-22 04:16:20 · answer #9 · answered by Desiree 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Crazy! It's no ones business, the background of your fiance. Use your parental rights and tell her it's not going to happen if your marrying this girl then obviously she's not just a fling, and she's going to have to get to know your children.
2007-02-22 04:16:17 · answer #10 · answered by **Red** 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋