All right I always date nice guys they are good looking too. Bu the thing is they are too nice and i never had anybodyt hat cares for me so when they do i just get too close and i have to end the relationship because they know way to much about me and htey care. I hate breaking their hearts cuz they are nice. I know i sound bad because all girls wnat a nice guy..whats my problem????
2007-02-22 04:10:40 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It's the challenge: the bad guy is the one you can't ever really tame, who'll cheat on you, and so if he's with you, you feel special... until he treats you like crap so long you get fed up with it.
The "nice" guys you are talking about are "wussies". They try to make you happy, you are constantly testing them, they let you get away with acting badly, so you don't feel so special with them.
What you need is a positive challenge: a gentleman who is cconfident, who is flexible and can compromise but won't be pushed around and let you get away with treating him badly. These make up roughtly 3-5% of the single male population at any given time, and the problem is you are going to mess it up the first time you meet one and may have a hard time meeting another one, and so you'll probably settle for the wussy when you get older unless you are a masochist and try to fix a bad boy.
2007-02-22 04:23:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deep down you don't think you deserve to be with a nice guy. Do you feel that there is a reason behind them treating you well? Work on yourself there is no such thing as the guy is too nice.
Sounds like you have commitment issues. Get some help so you can have a happier life.
2007-02-22 04:53:24 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Issues with your inner self, you don't think that your worthy of love apparently, and don't know how to accept it as it is. Also sounds like you are scared of being close with anybody, because of what ever reasoning you conjured up in your mind when you were younger. You need to think really hard about what you want in a relationship, and open up to the fact that someone else has feelings for you, and that the whole world is not out to hurt you.
2007-02-22 04:20:22 · answer #3 · answered by K_Seeks4Answers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better get some counseling to find out why you don't believe you deserve a happy relationship. I know someone in her late 40's that's still the same way....Do you want to be like this forever, talk to a professional and get to the root of the problem, so someday some nice guy wont have to finish last.
2007-02-22 04:16:58 · answer #4 · answered by EGOman 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's been my experience that most girls have a fantasy in the back of their minds that they like the rough, tough and socially unacceptable kind of man, the outcasts of society if you will. The long hair, beards, piercings, tattoos. In and out of jail, drugs, whatever. I've dated a number of girls that. And yes, the relationship doesn't usually last too long. About 6 months has been my longest. You want to go out?
2007-02-22 04:19:02 · answer #5 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you afraid to get close so instead of them breaking up with you, you break up with them first. It sounds like you want a nice guy with bad boy tendencies. I think you have intimacy problems. Meaning you don't like ppl getting close to U at all.
My solution:
1. Get therapy
2. When let someone get close to you and prove that they won't hurt you. Learn from your heartache, don't run from it. There are times when you have to be on your guard to make sure ppl are in you life for the right reasons, but when you find someone who you trust and who cares for you let them get close bit by bit.
Disclaimer: I'm not therapist...
2007-02-22 04:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
happens to me too. I guess we need an "okay guy", not a "nice guy" or a "badass guy". An okay guy might be just the perfect balance,not too sweet, not too spicy. A man who lets you know he's got strong shoulders to hold you, but who also listens when you talk. A man who might not give you little "i love you" notes, but who can carry you in his arms out of harm's way.
2007-02-22 04:15:56 · answer #7 · answered by dianabarff 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ha...lol what your looking for a guy to slap you around? Most girls like bad guys thats just the way it is. But I say good guys is who is going to be there for you no matter what.
2007-02-22 04:15:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I notice with the chicks I go out with the worse I treat them the more they want to be around. Call them sweetheart or honey and off they go. Call them names and throw a tantrum and can't get rid of them.
2007-02-22 04:25:39 · answer #9 · answered by squeaky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You looks to be confused with your feelings. Or you might not wanna have a serious relationship at the moment.
2007-02-22 04:14:50 · answer #10 · answered by Mr.Pagani 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋